(CLIENT) (Husband with Anxiety & Panic Attacks, Depression, Anxiety, ) (Name withheld), what is today s date, do you know?

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1 (CLIENT) () (Name withheld), what is today s date, do you know? October 11 th. The 11 th, that s right, October It s great to get started with you, dear. What is it you would like being with me today to address or get done for you? I think I have a lot of issues. I started taking Paxil about three years ago when my husband s problems with his family started. I think my husband became pretty ill; he was just going through a very rough path having all the anxiety and panic attacks. He would come home and lay on the floor and said he was not feeling his legs. All kinds of scary stuff. Yeah. That was my first time in my whole entire life I m 32 and I was 29 at the time that I started really having problems in my life, because I m the only child and my mom always protected me. My mom and dad are separated but they always got along really well. My mom always took the problems herself so I didn t have to deal with them, and I was raised in a very calm environment. My mom s side of the family, they all suffer from anxiety. My mom used to smoke until about a year ago. She gets very anxious when she has problems, but she s a tough person. She has a tough personality, unlike me. I m more like my dad who is more of a negative person, so I guess I got the combination of my mom s anxiety and my dad s negativity. I am not sure what you mean by negativity. Every time my dad has to deal with problems he s Well tell me with you. What do you mean by negativity? Negative thoughts. What do you mean by negative? Say, for instance, like yesterday I was thinking about a bunch of things, let s see for instance, the company, because now I help 1

2 my husband with the new company. And, instead of thinking the company is doing well and my husband is working a lot but hopefully he will have some free time in the near future, I start thinking what if he doesn t have any free time? What if we can t have a normal life? Our friends are always inviting us to go out and we can t because we re not like a normal couple anymore. He works a lot. You know, instead of thinking everything is going to be fine, I go the other way. Not all the time, but most of the time. So by negative, am I understanding some of them have been fearful thoughts? Very. I ll tell you, I came from Cuba when I was 19. It was really tough for me but I knew I was doing the right thing because I wanted a better future. I met my husband in a month. I wasn t looking for anyone, but he tried really hard, he was a good guy, we fell in love and we dated for three years. We never lived together; I lived with my dad. Then we got married and we moved in together and everything was perfectly fine for six years in a row after we got married. The company with his brother was doing fine. His brother, I always thought he was pretty crazy from the day I met him. I forget what kind of company it was. Home electronics I remember, installing high-end things in high-end homes, now I remember. Yes. He worked for several different companies until his brother and he started to open their own company. To have their own place, right. I remember now that story. Yeah, for six years sometimes I said to myself, how come everyone is struggling and my life has always been like I always thought that one day this isn t going to be like this. I always thought our lives, in my mind, it was pretty perfect. I m the kind of person my mom is not like that but my dad is I like things to be 100 percent perfect, which is never going to happen. Life is not perfect, but I always try to have everything as close as perfect, and I always do things perfect otherwise I don t do it. So, for about six years my husband s and his brother s company was doing good. They were making a lot of money. I used to go to school. I never worked a day in my life until about three years ago when I had to

3 help my husband. I was going to (name withheld) University doing the things I loved to do. I had a lot of free time and I never knew about the issues when they had the company together. I mean, I would hear some stories about clients, but I was never worried about, you know, problems like moneywise because my husband never brought those problems home. And, it was like that for six years. Between me and my husband, ever since we got married, we will have, like regular couples, issues, get upset at each other, but the things you can deal with and move on. But then my husband s brother started having problems with his wife and that s when everything started. It was pretty crazy, like, he thought she was cheating on him. My husband was working, running the company by himself. The brother was going crazier, and I always thought he was crazy and the wife was pretty crazy, too. She was driving me nuts. She would call me, and I think that s when the whole thing started because I started getting anxiety because By anxiety what do you mean? Just the thoughts. Thoughts? Yeah, just like the thoughts of things not Fear thoughts? Fear thoughts of things. I said, this has got to end; this is going to have not a happy ending. So you said there were two things. You said there was anxiety and you said there was negativity, but you have described them both the same way. Are they any different from each other, or are we talking about fear thoughts? Yeah, like, fear thoughts. Like for me anxiety, when you try to think ahead, how is my life going to be a year from now? So the problem has been fear thoughts. Have there been angry thoughts? Oh, yeah. At the beginning, angry thoughts with my ex-sister-inlaw with my brother-in-law because at first I thought they used me. When they were having problems they would go to my house where I was cleaning or doing things by myself, and they would

4 just fight in front of me and call the police. And she would knock on my door at 4 o clock. Have there been angry thoughts lately? No, not lately. They moved on There haven t been angry thoughts lately, there have only been fear thoughts lately? I ll tell you, my grandma died a week before I had this big panic attack. My grandmother lived in Cuba and she wanted me to go to Cuba to see her The panic attack was how long ago? Three years ago. Have there been any since? How long since the last one? Three or four days ago. Not like big ones because I take my pills. I m on very low doses of medication. I have been taking Paxil, 10 mg, because Dr. (name withheld) prescribed this medication after my grandmother died because I was so, so sad. I cried and I had this feeling that I didn t go see her and I felt guilty for a while. At the same time, I was dealing with my husband s issues with his brother and it was like I took a lot of stress. I was so stressed out, you know when you re trying to breathe? I was like that for a week that I had days where I couldn t. That was years ago? Yeah, that was three years ago. And I started not sleeping well. I started going to bed and waking up in the middle of the night thinking of my problems. I was very sensitive because of my grandmother s passing so I think that s why the problems with my husband hurt even more. Bring me to what s going on for you currently that made you think to come to see me. I still haven t moved on from the night I woke up feeling really thirsty, I went downstairs and I went from feeling really hot to feeling super cold. I had a little bit of water and You haven t moved on and you ve continued to feel fearful.

5 Honestly, that day I thought I was dying I thought I was having a heart attack or something. I understand what happened that day. But that hasn t been happening. Not like that, because a week after the panic attack, I stayed really nervous and anxious. Yes, and then you got the prescription, I understand. The Paxil, 10 mg, and Lorazepam for the days I can t sleep well, I take.5 mg of the Lorazepam, and I have been trying to get off the medication twice recently. So what was it at this point that made it be you thought now you wanted to come and meet with me? How come now? How come not last year? And how come now? Dr. (name withheld) has been telling me to come see you, but I thought it was something I could help myself with the medication. But the thing is every time I m feeling good, and I tried to start weaning off the medication, I m fine for a month or two, and then little by little, I m back to start having to take the medication again because of the fears. The fears get better and the medication helps Now I understand what s been happening. When I saw (name withheld), he seemed pleased with his meeting with me when he spoke to you? Yes. And it seemed to be helpful, yet not make everything wonderfully better but make things significantly better? Well, with the problems with his family, yes. I think that helped him a lot. That was the focus. But he didn t tell you the other issues, because that is what was really bothering him at the time. But (name withheld) has a lot of issues. His whole entire family, they are not 100 percent normal.

6 I understand. I feel like out of the whole family, he s the one who has a good heart and he s sweet most of the time. He loves to help people. But he s the type of person who will stress me out and stress my mom out. He s a worrier and me too. We worry about things too much and it s not good. It s not good because the minute you start worrying, and for me, in particular like my mom tries to help but she s not a psychologist. The minute I tell her I m having these thoughts, especially when I m not on the medication, I start feeling dizzy or either very anxious, actually aggressive at times, like I scream at (name withheld). Then, after the anxiety comes the depression, like I don t feel like doing anything, plus I get the fear. It s something that after the first panic attack, I tried to move on but I don t quite I understand what s happened. My husband has a lot of problems. A year ago I told him we needed to see a marriage counselor because some things he doesn t learn. Like I tell him please don t drive fast when we re together in the car. He tries to, but in the end, it s something that is not up to him it s his personality. With the music, he likes the music really loud, and I m like, oh my gosh, you re driving me crazy. We try to get along and it s hard. He doesn t really listen. Do you have children? Uh uh. That s my other issue, like, I just turned 32 and I really need to get my life straightened so we can plan a family. Because, he s 35, I m 32. Every time I tell him about having kids he s like, oh, I m not sure. Like, I know the way he was raised, it s totally different than the way I was raised. He s more of like I don t think he wants to take responsibilities for anything. Like, every time I tell him, hey, you know once I get pregnant, he s like, oh, you know, I m not sure if I want to have kids. Some other days he wants to have kids. I don t know if he s bipolar, it s kind of like he tells me one day one thing That s not an indication of being bipolar. No, no, I know. But it s, like, he s not That s an indication of being undecided.

7 Exactly. So, for instance, when we got our dog five years ago, we said let s get a dog just to train ourselves and be responsible. He s, like, I don t want a dog. I don t want to have responsibility. And he said so many things before we got the dog, like, I m not sure if I want to get the dog. And I m like, (name withheld), you could help me, I could do this, you could that. And he s like, I don t want to do anything for the dog. Then I got the dog and he did everything. So sometimes he s very harsh on me and on himself, as well. So I feel like my life has changed so much. My mom did not prepare me for life. Sometimes when I see couples who are cheating on each other and doing awful things, my mom is like, honey, life is like that. Life is full of crazy people and people doing horrible things and that s life. And for me it s like, oh my God, because I was raised different. I see people doing horrible things and I never had to work. I was focused on school and I had to stop taking classes. The way that your mind works is fine. I can tell that because of the way you are presenting information to me and how it fits together and is relevant. The way your mind has been processing data has been within the normal range, but not within the range you would consider optimal. It s not been a hardware problem; it s been a software data processing problem. The way the data, the way the information has been read has been causing the emotions and thoughts that have been disturbing. Information comes in through the senses, as it does with every other life form. However, only with human life form is the data that comes in through the senses stored. You can remember something your mother said to you earlier today. No other life form would be able to do that. You can do it because the data that came in didn t just come in through binoculars; it came in and then went into like a data processor. So for zebra, everything is like binoculars. If in binoculars you see a red cardinal, a red cardinal is there. If red cardinal isn t there, you don t see a red cardinal. If zebra is worried about lion, lion is near a zebra. If lion isn t near a zebra, zebra has no thought about a lion. So when zebra senses take in information, she may become aware of it because of a sensation or because of an emotion or because of a thought. The information may be information about what s going on inside of her body, or it might be information about what s going on outside of her body. It might be information that stomach is empty. It might be information that lion is coming. Whether it s a sensation or an emotion or a thought, the only purpose is to cause an action. The only reason the mind causes a feeling is to cause an action. If zebra sees lion, someone might say, lion made zebra afraid. That s not actually accurate. Zebra s senses brought in info that lion was approaching.

8 Zebra s mind, then, caused the emotion of fear because fear will cause zebra to become physically stronger and highly motivated. It will be just perfect for that situation. It s designed to cause an explosion of power; it s not for the long haul. The zebra only needs to run faster than the slowest zebra and it s only for a few moments that she ll need it. So it s all out for those few moments and then it just snaps off when no longer needed. If zebra sees something that makes her angry a big bird has landed near her offspring and seems to threaten it. Zebra becomes angry. Anger has the purpose of causing an action. The action is to charge and bite hard. But as soon as the bird flies away, there is no longer any anger or even any thought about the bird. It s always fully present like binoculars. Our minds also are different than zebra s mind in that our minds attach aesthetics to things. So you might say to the zebra, isn t that a beautiful painting? And zebra would say, I m not sure what you mean. And you say, well don t you see it? And zebra would say, I certainly do, but I don t know what you mean about beautiful. Zebra s mind doesn t attach meaning. Your human mind attaches meaning to things. So you say to the zebra, look, isn t that horrible? And zebra says, I m not sure what you mean. Or you look and say, isn t that wonderful? And zebra says, I m having trouble following you. She sees what is right there, and she sees it at the moment. You see how our human minds are much more complicated? But when our minds became much more complicated, it s not that the entire mind became more advanced, it s that only one component of the mind became advanced and the rest remained the same. So you may hear someone say to you, I would like to calm myself down. Or, I would like to cheer myself up. Or, I would like to motivate myself to exercise. Or, I would like to stop myself from worrying. Or, I would like to get myself started on this term paper. You have heard that all your life. No other animal would have that thought. A crow wants to be on that branch. Is crow thinking, I hope I can get myself motivated to go there? No. If crow wants to be on the branch, what is he doing? If crow wants to be over there, what is he doing? He s going to move there. He s flying there. How soon? As fast as he can. It s instantly as soon as there s the thought. Crow doesn t have what you call self. Zebra doesn t have what you call self. Zebra is all I. So if it s I want to go there, then I am going there. I m not trying to get myself to go there. I don t have a

9 self I need to get to come with me, I m just going. Humans have this thing called self they are trying to manage. The reason is, as our minds became much more advanced, the part of the mind we identify with that feels like us is the part that you use the word I to refer to. So when somebody says to you, I want to calm myself down, the I is the speaker. That is who she identifies with. Self is the more primitive part of the mind. Those two parts of the mind aren t even designed to work with each other in any integrated way. A brand new Lexus would be more advanced than an old fashioned Ford. But the brand new Lexus has every component integrated. Everything is made to work with everything else. If somebody had that old fashioned Ford and he said to you, I want to modernize it, so I m going to put in cruise control, automatic windows, a catalytic converter, a turbo. You might say to him, I think you could be in trouble with this. And he says, but your Lexus has those things. Yes, my Lexus is designed to all work together with that. You take something primitive and stick modern stuff on top of it, it doesn t know how to communicate with itself. Unfortunately, our minds are not built like that new Lexus. Our minds are built like that old Ford that somebody has stuck a cruise control into. So, it s normal to have dysfunction. Dysfunction is the norm. There are people who will tell you there is dysfunction, and there are people who won t tell you there is dysfunction. But there is very rarely not dysfunction. So it s going on within the way most people s minds are working, and some more than others. So we have the opportunity to begin to tune and clear and update your mind so that it will be working more to your advantage. The way your mind has been working has been within the range of normal. All of the hardware is fine; it s just data processing that is off. Let s find a way to represent visually our starting point. We re going to represent the way your mind has been processing data recently which has been causing the feelings of fearfulness and anger that have been so uncomfortable. We re going to create a design we can see in our mind that will represent that. As we make up a design, it will be an abstract design that doesn t have recognizable content. As we see it in our mind s eye, you may notice that it s more harsh, glaring, jagged, vivid. Or you might say, no. It s more dull, dark, dank, foggy. Make up the design for what s going on within the way the info has been processed within your mind. Is it more dim, dark, dreary? Uh huh. And so we re done with that. Now what happens for me is that as I listen hard to what has been, my mind split screens and I begin to

10 see what it is that, at the very highest level, is intended for you. And what I see is this, I see you with your mind cleared and updated so that this is, at the highest level, intention. So while you re feeling clear and calm, you re automatically doing what is in your long term best interest and in the best interest of all of those you would ever feel to protect. So I m seeing you functioning at the very best, comfortably with clarity and security, doing what is best, personally, and that which protects those you would protect. Does that sound okay? So we then have the same target. We have the same intention. You and I are looking toward the same outcome. Does that make sense? Uh huh. Our minds are very responsive to symbols. It s why all countries have flags. Let s find a way to symbolically represent what it is that we are heading toward. We re going to symbolically represent you with your mind clear and focused. We re going to represent you with your mind working well, and we re going to represent it with some kind of wild animal or wild bird. What animal or bird would represent what it is that you and I are now intending and pursuing? Should I pick an animal? Well, that s how I would know what it is. Say that again. I said, we re going to represent what it is that we are, together, intending and pursuing with a symbol. And the symbol we will use is some kind of wild bird or animal. And that wild bird or wild animal will be, then, symbolizing what it is that, together, we are intending, which is that your mind is clear so you feel secure and do what is in your best interest and in the best interest of those you would protect. We re not creating a way to symbolically represent what it is that we re intending, and we re going to represent it with some kind of a wild animal. What animal or wild bird would it be? A lion. Beautiful. And as you see lion, is lion moving or still? Still.

11 Yes. So we now have an excellent symbol. Each time we inhale, you know we take in oxygen and you know the oxygen goes to every cell in the body. So you know that as air is brought in, that air, that oxygen goes to every cell and energizes every cell. So, to bring in the energy and the awareness of what lion represents so that your mind reorganizes to be like that, all you need to do is to think lion as you very slowly and deeply inhale. Do that now. Perfect. Now next time, what you ll so is the same thing, but after you have inhaled, you will exhale more slowly than you inhale. While exhaling, you ll close your eyes and eyes will continue to rest closed for a few moments until I ask you to open them. So think lion and exhale even still slower. Eyes continue to rest closed. And as your eyes are resting closed, lion might come to mind, but you don t need to concentrate on it; you don t need to purposefully think about it. It s already been brought in; it s already working. Then you can take your time and open your eyes. So, what did you notice, in terms of thought, during those few moments? I was not thinking about anything. Very calm. So next, let me show you, please, a couple of other things with energy that I think will be interesting. Because what s happening is our energy is coming together to transform the way your mind processes data and causes feelings. May I show you some things? Here s what you do. Turn and face me. Scoot in a little bit. Put your arm like I have mine. Now in a moment, I ll ask you to drop just your hand forward, then I m going to adjust it. I m going to point at a particular spot. You re going to laser in just at that spot. I m going to show you some things about vibratory energy. So, hand just drops there. I can adjust it to here. You look right here, look at that spot and don t look away. You ll begin to notice movement and the movement will be two different kinds. There will be a constant vibratory movement, and although it s constant, it may become more visible. In addition, there will be intermittent twitches that s it jerks, jumps that s it I withdraw my hand, and you close your eyes. Your eyes are closed. You can t see your hand, but you know where it is because you can sense it. You can sense it because you can feel it. You can feel it because of sensation. Sensation is energy. It s because of energy that you know where your hand is. There is movement through your fingers. There is movement through your hand. There are, indeed, two types of movement. There is a constant vibration, as I pointed out before. That s it. Yet, sometimes, like that, there is also and that an intermittent twitch. Both of those movements, while different, do have certain things in common. Both of those

12 movements are movements that are happening, not through the direction of your conscious mind. And the way we know it s not through the direction of your conscious mind is simply because the movements that happen through your hand and fingers weren t happening on purpose. You, of course that s it can become conscious that s it of the movement, but you re not consciously there it goes causing the movement. So the movement is caused not consciously, the movement is caused unconsciously, and yet you can be conscious of some of the movements that aren t conscious, while realizing that even when you are conscious of some of what is not conscious, you are also conscious that you re not conscious of some of what is not conscious. And as you are conscious of what is not conscious, you are also conscious of what is conscious, and yet, not conscious of what s not conscious. In a moment, I ll touch your wrist. You ll feel me slowly guiding hand, arm down but you notice the way it moves how differently it seems to move. It s not the way anybody would move it. It seems to be moving almost in robot like click, clack movements, because your inner mind is wonderfully responsive when treated with respect. And with your mind s wisdom, with your mind s power, it deserves our respect that s it. Now, once again, you can rest hand, arm, down...and then, once again, your eyes can open. There we go. Good job. So, again, what did you notice, in terms of thought? Very relaxed. Isn t that wonderful? So during that time, in that quiet in between thoughts, mind was following our direction and creating the transformation that we are intending. Now, this part of your mind is very bright and has great access to logic. The primitive part of the mind is able to learn and understand things, but not at the same pace or in the same way. What my job will be is to get it to be that this part of your mind has learned what this part of your mind already knows. So, this part of your mind isn t going to be learning much. But this part of your mind will be learning a lot. For instance, as I am sitting here with you and we are involved in a project, in a way, as I m sitting here with you involved in a project, is there stuff I should be doing about things that happened to me seven years ago? While I m here with you involved in this project, should I be doing things about stuff that happened? No. Okay. Why would you, in this project what should I be doing about the young man who met with me for a visit yesterday?

13 Nothing, huh? Okay. I do have an appointment scheduled tomorrow and another one scheduled later today. While I m with you, is there anything I would need to be doing for any of those people? No. Okay. So, have you ever seen a meteor in a museum? Do you know what a meteor is? It s a particle that was flying through space and made its way through the earth s atmosphere and landed. And I know in the Museum of Natural History and I saw one in a museum in Washington, it s this big rock that, basically, fell out of the universe and fell on the path, and now they have it in a museum. There have got to be more of them flying out there. What do you think I should do about that (laughter)? (Laughter). There s not much you can do. So is there anything I should be doing? No. So, say to me this, say, there is nothing you need to do about that. There is nothing you need to do about that. You re sure? Is there anything I need to do about that? Say it again, nope, there s nothing you need to do about that. Nope, there s nothing you need to do about that. Okay. Well, the population in India is expanding more than would be a good idea. I know you are here with me and it would be good if I could give you my attention, because we want to work on a project together, but is there anything I need to do about this problem of people who keep having babies in India? (Laughter). No. So, say There s nothing you need to do about that. Okay. Phew. I don t have to do anything about that whole thing in India? No.

14 What about the problem in Detroit with too much pollution? Tell me out loud. Yeah, there s nothing you should be doing about that. Okay. Well, what if my girlfriend is in a bad mood next month? Say it. There s nothing you need to do about that. Yes! Okay. You re getting that, aren t you? Yeah. Because everything I need to do is in front of me and is obvious. Does that make sense? Uh huh. Now, there are things you already know, but what is going on is, they re dropping in as we re doing this. Let s think about your capability. Let s think about me first, let s think about my capability. In order to live my life as okay as I can, there are things I am absolutely able to do and they will seem like a good idea to do and they will come to my mind to do. Can I do them? Sure. There you go. I don t have to worry about that right? Uh huh. If something occurs to me to say to you and I think that s a good thing to say to her and I can I m capable, it s come to mind and it s possible. Could I do it? Uh huh, sure. Okay. What if I thought of something that was impossible? Could I do it? Uh sure. Can I do things that are impossible, which means not possible? No.

15 I can t do it if it s not possible, even if I think of it? You might, yeah. Okay. If I think about jumping over the sun. That s not possible. Uh uh. Can I do it? No. Okay. I think about snapping my fingers and making me floating upward. That would be so fun. I just thought of it, is it possible? Can I do it? No. Okay. What if something would be possible but it doesn t occur to me? Could I do it if it doesn t occur to me? Even if I could do it, if it did occur to me, I couldn t do it if didn t occur to me. Do I have to do things that are impossible? No. I don t, for sure. Okay. If I m with you, is there anything I need to do that s completely impossible? No. I don t need to worry about doing impossible things. It s okay if I just do what s possible when it comes to mind? Right. Do I have to do it if it doesn t come to mind? Uh uh. All I have to do is what I can do if it comes to mind? Watch. All I have to do is what I can do if it comes to mind. I don t have to do it if I can t do it. Yeah. I don t have to do it if it doesn t come to mind. I only have to do what I can do if it does come to mind and seems like a good idea. If it seems like a good idea and I can do it and it comes to

16 mind and I can do it. But, if it doesn t seem like a good idea or if it doesn t even come to mind or it s impossible, then I don t have to do it. I agree. All right. Now, would you say we would follow the same recommendations for you? Yeah. Okay. So, do you have to do things that are impossible? I ll show you a couple of things that are impossible. I like these shoes, but I would like you to wear different shoes earlier this morning. Go ahead. Put on different shoes than these this morning, go ahead. How? Just say to me, that s impossible. Yeah, I m not home and I decided to wear these shoes. And this morning isn t here Yeah, it s gone. Right. So when I say, put on different shoes this morning, you say, that s impossible. That s impossible. Okay. And then I ll say, unfold your arms yesterday. Hurry up. You can t do that either, can you? Okay, unfold your arms next week. Hurry up. Right! You can t do it in the past; you can t do it in the future. Make people get along better with each other in Chicago, hurry. You can t do it if it s not in range. Right. What you can do, the only thing you ve got to do, is what occurs to you that seems like a good idea that s possible...that s it. Those are all of your responsibilities. Do you have to do things that don t occur to you? Do you have to do things that aren t possible? Do you have to do things you think are a bad idea? So all you ve got to do is what you think is a good idea that s possible for you to do

17 when it comes to mind. That s it. Okay. Now, you totally agree with me. Uh huh. You totally know that. But you know what, the primitive part of the mind that is in the environment of this more advanced thoughts and information coming in, the primitive part of the mind doesn t know that yet, even though you know that. And it s been causing all kinds of feelings in order to try to get you to do things that aren t possible. Put on different shoes this morning, hurry! Things like that. Right? You came here from Cuba when you were 19, didn t you? Uh huh. Well, don t. Come here from Cuba when you were 18. Hurry up (laughter)! Thing like that. Calm (name withheld) down yesterday, come on. See, all that stuff? So here, you totally know that. But do you get it that primitive mind hasn t really known that, and it s been causing feelings, and the only purpose of feelings is to cause action. People don t know that. But the only reason, if we feel something, it s because our own minds make us feel it; and the only reason our mind makes us feel anything is to get us to do something, and the only reason it tries to get us to do something is if it thinks there is something that needs to be done. So if somebody is worrying, it means their mind thinks there is something that needs to be done about things that aren t going on. So you say, what s the matter, you look worried. I say, I am. You say, what is it? I say, the meteors. You say, what do you mean? I say, well they are flying through space and one could hit Los Angeles (laughter). (Laughter). And you say, guess what dude? There is nothing you need to do about that. And I go, are you sure? And you say, absolutely, I promise. There is nothing you need to do about that. I go, oh, oh boy do I feel better! But what about India? There s nothing you need to do about that, either. Have a nice day. You don t have to do anything about meteors; you don t have to do anything about India. Well what if my brother got sick next year? You say, there s There s nothing you need to do about that.

18 Yeah! I go, phew! I feel myself relaxing and breathing better, and I think I can do a better job with you now because I m feeling like I m focused and clear, and while I m talking to you, I m not thinking about India so much (laughter). Right. I m paying attention to you and I m totally with our conversation. And if you say to me, well what about Detroit? I would say, I m doing this. This is what I m doing. I m interested in what I can do. There are a billion things I can t do, but that would be like going to a restaurant and he says, let me tell you the things that aren t on the menu. I m like, it s okay. I m good. Just tell me what is on the menu. Well, do you want to know what we had yesterday that we don t have anymore? Not so much. Well, here is what we re going to plan to start serving next month. That s okay (laughter). What can you bring me today? Well, here are some things I could bring you and you wouldn t like them. What could you bring me today that I would like that would be good for me? That s all you want to know, just that. What an easy job to tell you those. I thought I would have to be here for the rest of my life telling you about all the things no. Just what do you have that I would like that you could bring me right now? Simple like that. Simple like that, and with that, mind is just so clear so clear. Somebody says, but if you have a child, maybe it s a daughter, and maybe when she goes to second grade, there will be a fifth grader who comes into the classroom and shoots her teacher right in front of her. I mean, don t you think that would be awful? That would be, for sure. And then she would have nightmares, and you say, there s nothing I need to do about that. Yeah. Totally, right? What about the Civil War, the Battle of Gettysburg? People are getting killed, injured, young men. What are you going to do? There is nothing I need to do about that. Now, it s not there is nothing I can do. It s that there is nothing I need to do. It s an important distinction, because if I am not able to do it, do I need to do it? So what there is for me to say, is not, I can t do anything about that, but what is more appropriate is, there

19 is nothing I need to do about that. So, I m going to start saying things to you, and you answer every question the same way, okay? What about what Stalin is going to do in Russia years ago? Well, what about Hitler? Hitler is horrible? The Klu Klux Klan is having a revival in Alabama. There s an anti-cuban faction of the Klu Klux Klan that is starting in Chicago. There you go. There you go. Clear, clear, clear, clear beautiful. Here, we ve got it. Here is how we can get it the rest of the way down. I just have to say what you already know so that it s heard by your inner mind. That s it. And in order to do that, all I have to do is get you to move your eyes like mine are moving now while I m talking to you. Wait until I start. I ve got to think of what to say. You do that, I talk to you and, it s the damndest thing, but what I say goes right in and your unconscious completely gets it. So, let s start with this one. Move your eyes, follow my finger, follow my finger. What is (name withheld) s brother s first name? (Name withheld). Okay. So, there s nothing you need to do about (name withheld) in the past. There s nothing you need to do about (name withheld) s marriage. There s nothing you need to do about (name withheld) s wife. There s nothing you need to do about (name withheld) s business with your husband. There s nothing you need to do about (name withheld) and your husband. Okay, now when I was saying that last one, there was a thought that was a little different, wasn t there? And what was the thought that was different than the one I was saying? What I thought? Yes, something came to your mind that was a little different than I was saying. What was it?

20 Yeah, my husband s problems. I just thought of that. Okay. So, here s what we do. Are you going to be able to do things that are possible for you that are a good idea if they come to mind? Yes. Are you sure you can do what you re absolutely able to do if it occurs to you and seems like a good idea? Okay, here we go. Watch this. All you need to do in terms of what is going on with your husband is one thing. All you need to do is what you re able to do that you think is a really good idea at the moment that it comes to mind to do it. You can do what you think is a good idea that is completely possible for you to do as it comes to mind to do it. That is all you have to do about your husband; that is all you have to do about his problems. The only thing you have to do is what you re able to do at the moment it comes to mind. You don t have to do anything about any problem he had yesterday, last month, last year, when he was a child, in the womb or any other time. There is nothing you need to do about anything he will worry about in seven years. And, the only thing you need to do is what comes to your mind to do that seems like a good idea when it comes to mind, and you can absolutely do that you can absolutely do everything that you need to do. You re completely capable of doing absolutely everything you need to do. Now take a big breath, follow up with your eyes and close your eyes as you exhale. Perfect. I m going to touch your wrist and lift your arm. Perfect. Then, you become very aware of your hand as I tap the back of it. You begin to notice sensations in the fingers. Sensations in your fingers and movements are beginning. Movements began in your fingers that you re not causing. You be interested in your hand and curious that s it as to how the fingers are going to move interested in how they will jump and move interested in how it s going to happen. And as it s happening, inner mind is responding to lion inner mind responding to lion aware of hand, fingers, sensations energy. Now, there have been experiences you had where the experience is completely finished and nothing needs to be done about it, but your primitive mind hasn t gotten that that s it full knowledge. I know, you know, we want your inner mind to know. One of those things is that experience you had three years ago. All kinds of feelings happened in your body, all kinds of thoughts and terrible fears. And now, here you are with me knowing there s nothing you need to do about the Battle of Gettysburg. There is nothing

21 you need to do about meteors. And, there s nothing you need to do about that. Just hear yourself, but silently say these words, there s nothing I need to do about that! And say it just like I did. There s nothing I need to do about that! Again. There s nothing There s nothing I need to do about that! So, I m going to mention different things. I am going to be tapping your forehead. You stay aware of your hand and energy there, and whatever I say, you give me the same answer. And, here we go. We re going to start with the Klu Klux Klan s anti- Cuban faction that is being developed in Chicago now. What about that? There is nothing I need to do about that. All right. Then, what about Charlie Manson? What about that? Okay. What about (name withheld) s crazy brother s wife? What about that?! What about when his brother was in your living room? What about that?! Well, what about that panic attack you had three years ago?! You thought you were going to die right then??!! What about how you can t see the moon sometimes when it s cloudy?! Have you ever thought about that?

22 Well, what if when your daughter goes to school, somebody is really nasty to her fourth grade teacher and she feels embarrassed for the teacher?! Big breath in out slow. I m going to lift your arm, you just let it fall into my hand fall, like no bones live there no bones, no bones no bones breath in, and watch. It just falls it just falls there it goes there it goes and then once again, when you re ready, you open your eyes. All right. So, think about the design we began with, remember that was representing how your mind was processing the data? It was dark and dim. What does it look like now? Clear. Very clear. Yeah. Now, I m going to say things that I just want you to react to, and I think you ll react by saying, there s nothing I need to do about that. Okay. What if you get pregnant and then you have a child, and then (name withheld) is taking the child to school and a blue jay flies into the windshield and smashes and dies right in front of your child, and then your child has nightmares about that and feels the blue jay is blaming him. There s nothing I can do about that. No. There is nothing I need to do about that. Yeah, say it again. Well, then what about that KKK thing in Chicago? But it s all about the anti-cuban KKK. What about that?

23 What about (name withheld) s brother? Well, what about his ex-wife? Well, what if (name withheld) begins to think that people in the government are trying to steal from him? There you go. What if he thinks the FBI is following him and trying to put secret devices in his shoes? There s nothing I need to do about that? All right, that s great (laughter). So, check, now, what it feels like inside you. Happy very relaxed, different. Good. Well you did a great job with me today. Is there anything at all we haven t spoke about that you wanted to make sure we got to in today s visit? Nothing comes to mind. I feel like we covered what was really hot right away Right. and completely and well. We didn t just get the car washed, we got the car detailed, when you get in there and clean it with a Q-tip around those things that really bothered me.

24 yeah, the things that were really going on. Doesn t it feel like we did that? Yeah. So I think that s great. I think the idea of getting together with me was harder than the actual getting together with me, right? Uh huh, yeah. Right? The idea was kind of like building a whole time, and the actuality was more like adjusting a shelf. Right. So I think it would be useful for you to meet with me three or four times in order to just keep clearing and making things work in a way that is really secure and good for you. What I would recommend is our next meeting would be a little shorter than today, like under an hour, probably I don t exactly how long, it s more about we want to make sure we get things done. If you decide you want to meet with me for I would think three more visits, the fee I was charging you, which was (withheld) will drop to half of that for those so that it works for you. And I can assure you that with us clearing things up, you will live longer, healthier, happier, more comfortably and have more fun, and therefore, so will all of the people around you. Around me. They will just have to. It s, like, catching, because you will know how to spin stuff. Yeah. What happens when people are close is this thing starts to vibrate a little, and of course, they are very close so she s vibrating too, but she s vibrating like that which gets her vibrating like this. But, if it s this, it s vibrating a little and she is just kind of like, whoa. Then, it s vibrating slow. Maybe it doesn t stop, but it doesn t go like that. So that is where I would like to see you with that. And, at some point, when he gets around to it, which I think would best happen by example rather than by trying to shoe horn him into it, at some point when you say things like, this is so wonderful for me you could even say, (name withheld), this is so wonderful for me, but I really don t think you should do it because it s more

25 important for you to work more hours, that way you can install more stereos, but I love it (laughter). That way he can say to you, don t tell me to work more hours. I can do it too. Whatever, I m just teasing you. But the way to do anything is to lead by example. Make some sense? It s actually the opposite, that I want him to work less hours. I know you do. That s why I m saying, if you say that crazy stuff, you get the opposite reaction, probably. (Name withheld), stop taking care of yourself and go back to work (laughter). What do you mean?! Why do I have to do that? Because it s been sometimes you have been pulling in this direction and he s been moving in that direction. Who knows what would happen if you did the opposite? Hmm, okay. Why are you home already? (Laughter). Then he ll say, you complain about me not coming home and now you complain about me coming home? Yeah, it s like, you could do, at least, one more job (laughter). Do that a couple of times and he ll never leave. One day he ll be sitting in bed all day yelling at you that you need to bring him tea (laughter). Anyway, I m just teasing you with that, but you guys could have a great life. He s a neat guy. I really like him. He s very smart. Yeah. Very smart, incredibly successful, aggressive, I mean in terms of building and creating, I don t mean personally aggressive I found him a gentleman and kind, but energized and I think it was a good connection for you. And you are, certainly, a good connection for him. My goodness, what a lucky guy that he gets to hang out with somebody who is so beautiful and lovely and smart and fun. Oh, thank you. So, call (name withheld), because she doesn t let me make appointments because I will have three people coming at the same time or something. Call (name withheld) and tell her this was useful and that you would like to get back in a couple of weeks.

26 Okay. How soon do you want me to be back? In a couple weeks. In a couple weeks? Two weeks. In two weeks? Yeah, something like two weeks, depending on my schedule and yours. Sound good? Okay. So, do I go home with? There s nothing you need to do. We ve gotten it all done. There is no homework. Okay, good. But you know what the magic words are, and the magic words are, there is nothing that needs to be done. If it doesn t seem like a good idea and isn t immediately possible, and it has to be immediately possible, you see? I mean, it would be possible for me to have worn different socks earlier, but if you say to me, go and wear different socks this morning now, it s impossible. So, if it s not possible, it s not interesting. Because that silly waiter is saying, but don t you want to know yesterday s specials? I m saying, not so much. Got it, sweetheart? Yep. The meeting we had was a really good one. Would it be all right with you if it was used in teaching mental health professionals? Oh, good. Thank you.