7 Secrets to overcoming emotional overwhelm. Creating the Life You Love Lyza Saint Ambrosena

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1 Lyza Saint Ambrosena 7 Secrets to overcoming emotional overwhelm Creating the Life You Love Lyza Saint Ambrosena

2 You ll be receiving brilliant hints, tips & invites to inspiring events Yes! I d love to experience a One on One Life Changing Session with Lyza & / or I d love to come along and soak up the amazing atmosphere at one of Lyza s Inspiring Events. Personal Development Classes Special Guest Speakers Raw Food Events Meditation Classes And much more... 2

3 INTRODUCTION: CREATING A BALANCED LIFE Overcoming Emotional Overwhelm MEANS Finding Balance. Body, Mind & Soul Balance = Physical, Mental and Emotional Balance. When these are in alignment then we can control emotional overwhelm and can handle thoughts, tasks, priorities, relationships, and life as a whole. When we suppress our true selves in one area of our life, to please others this eventually leads to imbalance and overwhelm. When you begin to feel the first hint of overwhelm, take a moment and contemplate quickly, the three elements of BODY, MIND & SPIRIT and see where your balance is out... Is it your Health? (Body) Do you need to do something for your BODY? Drink Water instead of Coffee or other stimulants to calm you down? Eat something healthy? Get outside for a quick walk in the sun? Is it your Thoughts? (Mind) Do you need to do something for your Thoughts? Close your eyes take a deep breath and clear your head? Write a list of solutions to the stressful thoughts in your mind? Change your thoughts that create Stress to positive thoughts? Is it your Feelings? (Soul) Do you need to do something for your feelings? Do you need to plan something uplifting to look forward to in your life? Do you need to forgive someone who you feel hurt by? Do you need to read or listen to something inspiring to uplift you? Find the part of you that needs assistance and CREATE TIME quickyly to bring it back into BALANCE. Replenish your mental, emotional and physical treasure chests. Soon you ll begin to recognise your Balancing Needs automatically! 3

4 - SECRET 1 - Our body, mind & soul will tell us when we are close to burning out... the hints include, Looking fatigued, Reacting to situations strongly that we usually wouldn t react to, No motivation to do positive things that we know would uplift us, Constantly feeling there s no time to do what we want for ourselves, Resenting others for not giving us what we could give to ourselves, Sometimes we need to push the STOP button and take a DEEP BREATH and RELAX ~ this allows our body, mind and soul to rest and regenerate, to rebalance and then approach our task (our life) from a calmer perspective. If you find yourself in OVERWHELM, STOP. Close your eyes. Take a DEEP BREATH in through your nose (fill your belly with air). Hold it softly for 3 seconds then breathe it all out through your mouth. Step away from what you are doing if you can, for 5 15 minutes and let your breathing calm you down. Drink a glass of water to help your mind calm. Let yourself think of something different for a few moments. Your new CALMER perspective will help you to RELAX and potentially approach your overwhelming situation differently. Surrender to your inner knowing of health, peace, forgiveness, gratitude, peace, joy and actions that will help you feel more relaxed. Practice STOPPING, BREATHING and RELAXING so you can simply surrender to the simplicity of life. Here are some things to jog your memory Switch off the phone Long relaxing salt baths, Walking the dog Massages Sleeping in Going to the gym Taking a rest/sleep in nature Going on a bush walk Pedicures Walking on the beach alone or with a friend 4

5 Write a list now of the things that help you to STOP, BREATHE & RELAX! Then begin to integrate your ideas into your everyday life. Do it now... DO MORE OF THESE Go to bed by sleep by 10pm Eating Healthy Meals (phone off) Setting clear family boundaries Focus while you work (Switch off social web search tools) Social text only AFTER work Complete tasks BEFORE moving on. Switch to decaf or green tea Drive with calm music on Delegate the jobs you can Say no to social events that drain you. Limit your daily TO DO LIST Spread your TO DO List over several days Detach from stressful people Watch inspiring Movies Listening to inspiring calming music Set reasonable start & finish times for work AND STICK TO THEM. DO LESS OF THESE Getting to bed at midnight Eating lousy on the run Working too much Letting family meddle in your affairs Too much web surfing Too much text messaging Multi-tasking without completing Too much caffeine Driving like a maniac Forgetting to delegate Over socialising wearing out Over piling your daily to do list Stressing over arrangements Stressing over circumstances Letting other people stress you Watching violent movies Watching horror stressful movies Listening to stressful music 5

6 - SECRET 2 - When we have too many things to do, we can freeze. We can become overwhelmed and so don t do any of them. When there s so much competing for our attention, we don t know where to begin and so we don t begin anywhere. We feel like we are on a hamster wheel, spinning The result can be Emotional Overwhelm: When we clear our head of our TO DO s, our brain can let go of ALL THE DETAILS. This helps us to FOCUS MORE CLEARLY on the task at hand. Write down everything you have to do on a piece of paper. Grab all the notes & notepads where you have been writing things to do plus the STUFF IN YOUR HEAD & put them all onto one list! REMEMBER TO PLAN FAMILY FUN, DATE NIGHTS, & WORKING ON YOUR DREAMS (eg: writing that book, researching travel dreams) PLAN FOR AN AWESOME LIFE!!!. Write down beside it HOW LONG you believe it will take to achieve and double it. TASK TIME 6

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8 FIND A TIMER: on your phone or watch to help you time yourself & tasks FAST THINGS FIRST: Spend 15 minutes no more knocking out as many of the easiest, fastest tasks as you can. Make quick phone calls. Send short s. Don t worry about whether these are the most important tasks on your list. Just get yourself moving. The goal is to cross off as many items as possible in the shortest time. Use a timer to stay focused. CHOOSE A BIGGY: When your 15 minutes are up, turn off your phone, close down all the windows on your computer, and choose the most daunting thing on your list. One that instils the most stress or is the highest priority. Then work ONLY IT - without distraction for 45 minutes. Then take a break for 15 minutes... sit in the sun, drink a cup of tea, sit quietly and decide if you would like to continue another 45 minutes. OR PLAN a time to come back to it. Ditch time wasting tasks: Less time on facebook, social calls, chit chat Delegate:Delegate or offload the items on your to-do list which are priority items that add value but do NOT need to be completed by you. Recheck Your Plans: Check your plans each night, note discrepancies from today, revisit tomorrow s plan. Include the Fun Things: Include the things you Love to do that enrich your soul. 8

9 -SECRET 3- Find a GREAT Calendar that YOU WANT to use. GMAIL CALENDAR: You can use a google calendar, (free as part of your gmail account), or invest in a diary or a year wall planner. I colour code my gmail planning so that at a glance I can see my balance of work, rest and play. I can access my calendar on my phone, ipad and computer it s easy to adjust. WHITEBOARD ANNUAL CALENDAR: We also have a large whiteboard 12 month calendar so at a glance we can all see our year ahead. We plan holidays, events, workshops birthdays etc. Whiteboard markers ensure we can make changes and can erase months when we ve completed them. WALL CALENDAR: Monthly wall calendars are also great, especially if they are in a group room (the kitchen) where all the family has access. Everyone can write activities into the calendar and can see what others are up to without overlapping each other. It solves a HUGE potential for overwhelm by being able to SEE into the future events and prepare accordingly. PREPERATION: We can plan in advance and then everyone can simply glance to know what is happening months into the future. We can see future FUN rewarding events are coming up to motivate us in our everyday work. IMPORTANT TO SCHEDULE IN YOUR CALENDAR : FUN: Schedule Time for FUN so you have things to look forward to after a week of working hard and focusing on less fun tasks. Your reward may be Bushwalks, picnics or swimming at the beach, alone or with friends Brunch or visiting local craft markets REST : Schedule time for REST where you cannot be reached by phone To sleep in or lay in the back yard or a park during lunch break to REST To lay on a couch and read a book BUILDING YOUR DREAMS: Schedule Time to work on your dreams. Travel research airfares, accommodation costs for a dream holiday Writing a book schedule ½ hour every few days to write. Creating a craft, quilt, painting, stitch work, floral art, 9

10 Color Code this calendar below as if it is your average weekuse a different color for WORK, EXERCISE, FUN, ACTIVITES, FAMILY TIME, COOKING, REST TIME, TIME TO BUILD YOUR DREAMS, RELAXING TIME, REWARDS 10

11 - SECRET 4 - Sometimes, when we re feeling positive and motivated, we can go out into a crowd (to the movies or work etc) and come home feeling stressed, upset or angry, with no real understanding of how this has come about. What this can mean, is that you have taken into your energy field, the heaviness of a person you have been in contact with from their energy field. An example is; you may have sat in a chair at a cafe, movie or work where others have left their unpleasant energy in the chair and you ve absorbed it. Become aware of your mood and feelings, BEFORE and AFTER interacting with others. Sometimes energy can even transfer over a phone conversations. How often have you hung up the phone after a long chat with someone only to feel more heavy, sad or worse than before you had the phone call? This is when you have picked up their mood and feelings. GOOD NEWS - You can clear your energy fields and thus your MOOD rapidly and transform the emotional heaviness you feel ( whether it is your own or someone else s) using some of the techniques listed below. 11

12 SHOWER: Have you ever arrived home from a day at work or an evening out and felt you had to rush into the shower and wash the day off. Well it s true; you are literally washing the energetic remnants of your day, down the plug hole. BATH OR SHOWER OR OCEAN: Take a warm relaxing bath in salt and essential oils to wash away tension. Salt cleans your energy field and therefore your mood. Set the intention in your mind, to LET GO and RELAX. Swim in the ocean or a pool till you feel the heaviness wash off you. VISUALISATION: Use some of the visualisation techniques to surround yourself with light inside your body and within your aura. Try some of these from my Healthy Hints & Tips Blog - CLOTHES: Clothes can carry old energy from from arguments, tension at work, others etc. This means when you wear it next, you ll feel the old feelings. To clear it, wash thoroughly & dry in sunlight then see how you feel next time you wear it. Some clothes carry old energy no matter what you do. If this is the case you may have to replace them. Keep a set of RELAXING clothes JUST for relaxing in! DRINK MORE WATER: Make sure you drink enough water. This strengthens your aura, body and mind. You ll think and feel more positive and peaceful in minutes. Add lemon to alkalise the acid levels in your body. This will calm feelings of overwhelm. BREATHING EXERCISES: Do some breathing and grounding exercises to empty the mind and focus on the intention of clearing your aura and bringing vital energy into you and your aura and your space. Refer to my blog for meditation exercises ~ 12

13 -SECRET 5 - How can clearing and cleaning your environment help you overcome emotional overwhelm? 1. Have you ever felt you could sense emotions that had gone on in a room before you arrived? 2. Have you ever just wanted to leave an environment? 3. Have you ever walked into someone s home and felt so calm you didn t want to leave? That s energy. For example: You may have had a great day then come home to a chaotic home environment because of the vibes that had been left there. EG: Dirty Laundry, Unwashed Floors, Sheets that need changing after tossing and turning all night, dishes undone, the lingering feeling of arguments in the air. Thoroughly clean and organize your room/home/office space. Play Awesome MUSIC, Wear exercise clothes, GET INTO IT use it as a fun exercise and put your FUN into the ROOM!!! You CAN do it! ZEN your DEN! Vacuum, Clear dust from table tops, sills, Curtains. Air out the space, open and clean windows, sills curtains, Let fresh air cleanse the room Washing Floors can make a huge difference to clearing the energy. Eliminate any noise except nature or very gentle relaxing music where possible. Turn off any and all electrical appliances where possible. Change sheets and even wash duvets and dry in the sunshine to absorb the light THIS WILL HELP YOU SLEEP MORE SOUNDLY. Clean, clear, dust and vacuum your bedroom and under beds also side tables and in the closet(s) 13

14 Now add ambience to your environment to help you feel relaxed and peaceful and happy when you enter your room/home/office. Water Spray: Using a clean spray bottle (previously unused by any chemicals) filled with fresh water. Gently, lightly spray it into the air around the room. You can put sea salt in the water if you like. Candles: Place one or more fresh, new, plain, unscented candles in the room, and light it/them. I like to use 3 around the room to create a sacred space between the 3 of them, so that any heavy energy may be transformed into light by the candles. Smudging: Light some incense or sage or resin and gently guide the smoke around the room. Once you ignite the bundle, blow out the flame, and the bundle will continue to smoke, then, set the bundle in the centre of a bowl. With the bowl in one hand and either use your own palm or a feather, slowly move around the space guiding the smoke into all areas of the room. Make sure to fan the smoke around the furniture, under tables and around any appliances. (Be sure not to activate the fire alarms). Play uplifting music: Play calm or happy music, rather than drama s from a television show or loud chaotic music. Play it even while you are not in the room, and you will find when you re-enter the room it will feel happier, more uplifted. 14

15 - SECRET 6 - Learn to control your attitude and you will transform your life. When we are in a state of overwhelm our bodies create chemicals that stress our bodies and minds even further. Calm your thoughts to calm your body. The mind is making choices in every moment so make these moments count. Catch your thoughts! When you catch yourself feeling emotionally overwhelmed with thoughts such as; There is no way out. I can t possibly do it on my own. There is nothing I am able to do to get out of this situation. I ll have to stay in this lifestyle because I can t change it. Change your ATTITUDE, your thinking, change your inner dialogue to one of gratitude and positivity and CAN statements. Harness the power of your mind by focusing on your passions, your goals and your positivity. Fill your mind with Gratitude for what you already have and you will be blessed with more of the same. For where focus goes, energy grows... so focus on what you love and are grateful for in your life and watch universal abundance open up and dance before you playing your song of joy. Check out my Healthy Hints & Tips Blog here Statements that assist with dealing with overwhelm, can include; Everything will work out perfectly in divine perfect timing Even though I can t see the outcome, i trust that this is all happening for the perfect reason Everything always works out perfectly I trust that I am always being led to the right situations at the right time for me to achieve my heartfelt dreams. 15

16 - SECRET 6 - Write a list of things you are grateful for in your life right now: Write a list of your talents & the kind things you do for yourself, your family, others... Your gifts to the world: 16

17 - SECRET 7 - Do you OVERLOAD your best friend with stress, work, worries, chaos? WHY do it to yourself? HOW do I become my own best friend? HOW does this help me OVERCOME EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM? Sometimes we need compassion for ourselves to cut ourselves some slack when we find ourselves with more things on our to do list than we can possibly achieve in the time frame we have set for ourselves. Or we may have high expectations of ourselves in business, relationships, physical looks and so on, that we are simply unable to keep up with because we have set our standards beyond what we are capable of achieving at this time. This is when it is most beneficial for us to begin to treat ourselves the same way we would treat a best friend, a child, someone we love. We often find it is easier to show others compassion than it is to show this to ourselves. Here is where we learn the simple skill of treating ourselves with kindness, with self respect and with love. When you become your own best friend, then you will treat yourself the way a true best friend would treat you. You will do things TO & FOR yourself as a best friend would. Think and speak about yourself kindly, treat yourself kindly and honestly, give yourself opportunities to relax and enjoy life, treat yourself in a balanced respectful way. As cheesy as loving yourself sounds... there is real value in developing an attitude of love and kindness towards yourself in thought, word and deed. Behaving as a best friend would towards you is a BRILLIANT start in the right direction to a loving relationship with yourself. Treating yourself kindly is at the core of creating a balanced life. Creating a life that you can love and a life that is healthy on all levels, work, home, relationships, body, mind and soul. You are worth it... start now. 17

18 - SECRET 7 - Close your eyes for 3 minutes and imagine a relationship with an amazing best friend Then answer these questions below: How would they treat you? What would they say to you and about you? What kind things would they do for you? How would you feel about them? How do they feel about you? YOU are your own best friend. THIS is how to feel about and treat yourself. PLAN the ACTION into your weekly schedule so that you can begin taking ACTION to create the solution. 18

19 PLAN the ACTION into your weekly schedule so that you can begin taking ACTION to create the solution. You ll be receiving brilliant hints, tips & invites to inspiring events... Yes! I d love to experience a One on One Life Changing Session with Lyza Now & / or I d love to come along and soak up the amazing atmosphere at one of Lyza s Inspiring Events Personal Development Classes Special Guest Speakers Raw Food Events Meditation Classes and much more... 19