The Ultimate 5 Step GOAL SETTING System

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1 The Ultimate 5 Step GOAL SETTING System By Zainah Zainalabidin Improving Life One Step At A Time!

2 Copyright Notices 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin No Part of this book may be reproduced, stored in retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise. Without express written permission of the publisher. Legal Notices While all attempts have been made to verify information provided in this publication, neither the Author nor the Publisher assumes any responsibility for errors, omissions, or contrary interpretation of the subject matter herein. This publication is not intended for use as a source of legal or accounting advice. The Publisher wants to stress that the information contained herein may be subject to varying state and /or local laws or regulations may apply to the user s particular situation or application of this information. The purchaser or reader of this publication assumes complete and total responsibility for the use of these materials and information. The Author and Publisher assumes no responsibility or liability whatsoever on the behalf of any purchaser or reader of these materials, or the application or non-application of the information contained herein. We do not guarantee any results you may or may not experience as a result of following the recommendations or suggestions contained herein. You must test everything for yourself. Any perceived slights of specific people or organization is unintentional. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 2

3 Contents A MESSAGE FROM THE AUTHOR...5 INTRODUCTION...6 Create your dream life...6 The difference between a goal and a dream...6 Understand why goal setting is important...7 Take charge of your life...7 Your power to choose...8 Accept responsibility...8 Leave your comfort zone...9 Embrace change...9 THE 5 STEPS IN GOAL SETTING...11 STEP 1. SELF AWARENESS...14 Take stock of your life...14 Create a Vision...14 Clarify your values...15 Believe in yourself...16 Be Authentic...16 Passion...17 STEP 2. PREPARATION...19 Understand the Unconscious Mind...19 Law of Attraction...19 Be willing to receive...20 Visualize...20 Create a Vision Board...21 Practice Daily Affirmation...22 Get Grateful...24 Find a Mentor...25 STEP 3. GOAL CREATION & PLANNING...28 Write down your goals...28 Brainstorm Your Dream...28 Create Your Future Vision...32 Make your resolution manageable...35 Create Well-Formed Goal Statement...35 Break down Goals into manageable Steps...36 Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 3

4 Identify skills...39 Recognize necessary resources...40 Recognize Sacrifices Required...40 Sacrifices required...40 Remove the Road blocks...41 Share your goals...43 Ask for help...43 Build your Dream Team...45 My Goal Plan...46 Take the first steps...47 Be committed...48 STEP 4. TAKE ACTION...50 Just Do It...50 Create Momentum...50 Focus! Focus! Focus!...51 Cultivate Good Habits...51 Let go of Perfection...51 Overcome Procrastination...51 Enjoy the Journey...52 Associate with the right people...52 Grab a Buddy...52 Rewrite Your Goals Daily...53 Keep On Visualizing Your Goals...53 Manage Your Time...53 Milestone...54 Plan Your Day Ahead MANAGING SUCCESS...60 Track your progress...60 Persist until you succeed...60 Feed Your Mind...60 Be Patient...61 Be Flexible...61 Be Kind to Yourself...61 Congratulate and Reward yourself at each milestone...61 Celebrate!...62 Maintain momentum...64 CONCLUSION...66 Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 4

5 A MESSAGE FROM THE AUTHOR Hello goal achiever! Thank you for choosing The Ultimate 5 Step Goal Setting System as your instrument for manifesting abundance. The Ultimate 5 Step Goal Setting System is a powerful tool to help you create and achieve your goals. It will guide you step-by-step through the entire process from discovering yourself and knowing what you want, to goal accomplishment. Please ensure that you finish each step before going on to the next step. Once you complete all the steps your life will never be the same. I wish you all the success, joy and happiness that you deserve. Enjoy the journey! To your abundance, Zainah Zainalabidin Your new success partner Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 5

6 INTRODUCTION Create your dream life Every successful person in this world is goal-oriented. They know what they want in life and they are focused on achieving it. The main reason for their great success is clear, specific, measurable goals written down and accompanied by a burning desire to accomplish them. Truly knowing exactly what you want dramatically increases the chances that you will get it. If you are vague and unsure about what you want you will likely be unhappy and unsuccessful in life. And then there are people who know what they want, but then get sidetracked from accomplishing the things they want to get done. It s a lot less likely to happen if you have a plan for achieving the things you want to accomplish. All successful people have a goal. No one can get anywhere unless he knows where he wants to go and what he wants to be or do. - Norman Vincent Peale The way to achieve success is first to have a definite, clear practical ideal a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends wisdom, money, materials and methods. Third, adjust your means to that end. - Aristotle The difference between a goal and a dream So you may ask, what is the difference between a goal and a dream? Everyone has a dream, so how do you differentiate between the two? Goals are more than just a dream. They may start out as dreams but goals are concrete plans. The main difference between a dream and a goal is taking action! When you develop a plan, set a date to complete the goal and take action towards it. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. - Walt Disney Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 6

7 Understand why goal setting is important Success is not an overnight accomplishment it takes planning and hard work. You have to have a roadmap that will help you stay focused on where you want go. If you don t know where you are going, you will never get there. If you aim at nothing, you re sure to hit it. You may work hard and keep busy, but if you do not set goals you will soon find yourself working hard without any meaningful results. Without goals, we wander aimlessly throughout life. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Any plan is better than no plan at all. You must have an aim, a vision, a goal. For the man sailing through life with no destination or 'port-of- call', every wind is the wrong wind. - Tracy Brinkmann Big goals get big results. No goal gets no results or somebody else's results. - Mark Victor Hansen Goal setting establishes direction for your life. It helps us determine our priorities, get organized, make big decisions, and realize our dreams. Setting goals gives us direction, purpose and focus in our lives. Goals focus attention towards goalrelevant activities and away from goal-irrelevant activities. When we have a goal, we focus our time, energy and talent on what we want to accomplish instead of squandering our lives away. Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. - Anthony Robbins Take charge of your life You can design your own life and you can create a beautiful life for you and your loved ones. Unfortunately, most people do not do anything with their life until they experience pain. Most people focus the majority of their thoughts in response to what they are going through in their daily trials. They are in survivor mode. The key is to create the circumstances we want rather than merely responding to them. We've all said to ourselves, "Someday, I will." But things get in the way; work, family, a lack of expertise on how to accomplish what we want to do, a lack of money or time. You name it, it happens. Taking personal ownership of your present circumstance and your future condition will go a long way to ensure success in the goal planning process. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 7

8 The past does not equal the future. It doesn t matter where you are coming from; all that matters is where you are going. If you don t know where you are going, you will never get there. The past does not equal the future. - Anthony Robbins Understand that in order for life to be different, you have to be different. No one is going to help you. It starts with you! For things to get better, you must get better. For things to change, you must change. Your potential for success lies within you and no one else. Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. - T.S. Eliot Your power to choose Life is whatever you make of it by choice. We have control over who we are, and what our lives are like. We have the power of choice. We have the choice of what we do with our time, who we spend time with and what we decide to believe. If something is not making us happy we should change it. If there is negativity in our lives we should find a way to create something positive out of it or change it. Sometimes we think of others so much that we forget what we want and need in our lives. This can make decisions difficult. Ultimately, it is our decisions that determine our destiny. So decide now to create a more meaningful life for yourself and choose wisely! Accept responsibility Realize that you and only you are responsible for achieving your dreams. No one is going to hold your hand and take you wherever you want to go. So step up and be a leader! Lead yourself to the kind of life that you want. If what you are doing is not working, do not blame others. Instead, focus on how you can make it better. You are the only solution to your problem. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 8

9 Leave your comfort zone What holds most people back from achieving success is that they are stuck in their comfort zone. Most people stay in their boring job not because they want to, but because they are so used to it. Even though it is boring and the pay is miserable at least they know what to expect. They can live with it. It is the fear of the unknown that stops people from even daring to dream. They would rather stay in the rut than not knowing what the future holds. Most people are afraid to venture into uncharted territory but there is where the excitement is. Stretch yourself and enter the world of endless possibilities! Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. - Andre Gide quotes (1947 Nobel prize winner for literature) The problem with a comfort zone is that it might actually be comfortable - Bob Proctor Embrace change Nothing will change for you unless you make a decision to change or unless something happens to you that force you to change. In order to manifest our dreams, we will have to visit unfamiliar ground, which naturally generate uncomfortable feelings. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 9

10 The 5 Steps In Goal Setting Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 10

11 THE 5 STEPS IN GOAL SETTING There are 5 steps in the goal setting process. Each step is equally important. You need to satisfy requirements for each step before proceeding to the next step otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure. The most common mistake is going straight to Step 4 which is the action stage. Without setting the necessary groundwork, you are doomed to fail. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them. - Henry David Thoreau Steps of Goal Achieving Step 1 Self Awakening Step 2 Preparation Step 3 Planning Step 4 Taking Action Decision making Change Mindset Goal Planning Plan the day Knowing Who You Are Visualizing Affirmation Implementation recover Step 5 Managing Success Maintain momentum Track Progress Manage setbacks Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 11

12 Step 1. Self Awareness The first phase is Self Awareness. Knowing yourself is the first step in the process of pursuing your goals. Understand who you are so you can set goals that are YOU. Do a life inventory to discover what your values are, what is important to you and what you are passionate about. Step 2. Preparation The next step is changing your mindset. You will work on your mindset and tap into your subconscious mind to accelerate the process of success creation. This step is where we build a psychological foundation to strengthen your belief that you are going to succeed. Step 3. Planning In this step you will create a clearly defined set of goals complete with an action plan. Step 4. Taking Action This is where the fun is. You will create a daily to do list and implement the steps that you have written down. Step 5. Managing Success In this step you will track your progress and manage any setbacks that occur. This is also where you celebrate your achievements. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 12

13 Step 1 Self Awareness Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 13

14 STEP 1. SELF AWARENESS The first phase is Self Awareness. Knowing yourself is the first step in the process of pursuing your goals. Understand who you are so you can set goals that are YOU. Do a life inventory to discover what your values are, what is important to you and what you are passionate about. Consider what it is you value the most, or what is important in your life right now. Take stock of your life Begin with taking stock of your life and doing a life inventory. Reflect on what gives your life meaning. List down what is important in your life. What is it that you enjoy doing most? What is it that you would do with your life willingly even if you were not getting paid for it? What is important to me: Create a Vision Do you have a vision for your life? Create a vision for your life to help you stay true to what you want your life to become. Your vision will guide you like a compass. When times are hard you really need to understand why you are doing what you are doing and why it is important. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 14

15 My Vision: Clarify your values Think about what values really matter to you. Be brutally honest. If the innate values that you have are not congruent with the values that you need to have to achieve your goal, you are going to be in conflict. You are setting yourself up for failure. Values That Matter To Me (For example; honesty, love, caring, loyalty) 1. I am 2. I am 3. I am 4. I am 5. I am 6. I am 7. I am 8. I am 9. I am 10. I am Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 15

16 Believe in yourself In order to achieve your goal you have to believe that you can do it. Believe you can get it. If you don t believe you can achieve it, you will sabotage your own goals. You have to believe. Do I believe I will be successful? Do I believe this goal is worth the effort? It is crucial that you believe without a doubt that you can do it. Your subconscious mind is really powerful and will detect any doubt that you have. "If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility. " - Dr. Norman Vincent Peale Everyone deserves to have what they want, and everyone should believe that they are good enough to get what they want. If you have limiting beliefs, you should change your thought process by believing that you deserve what you want. Even if you have to fake it before you make it meaning that you can tell yourself that you do deserve what you want before you believe what you are saying to yourself, and eventually you will believe just that! Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. - Jamie Paolinetti (American Schroeder Iron Pro Cycling) Be Authentic Be true to yourself. Do not pursue a goal because someone else wants you to or because you see other people pursuing it. It is your life and you have only one life. So make sure you do what you want to do. Often people set out goals to satisfy others, be it their parents, spouse or children rather than themselves. Even though the intention is admirable, you have to choose something that means something to you. You have to be self-centered when it comes to your goals. When you are determining which goals you would like to pursue you should not entertain the wishes of others and select goals that are only dear to your heart. A lot of people end up with a career that they do not like because it wasn t their choice. Most of the time they are stuck with it for life! Own Your Goal. Choose only the goals that are congruent with your desires and needs, because selecting goals that others want without your committed desire is a formula for failure. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 16

17 Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. - Steve Jobs (co-founder and CEO of Apple) Passion Success flows from passion. Choose goals that you are passionate about. Successful people do what they need to do because they love it. They are not doing what they hate or at least they have learned to love what they are doing. If you have to force yourself to make your wish come true you are working on the wrong wish. Live with passion - Anthony Robbins Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 17

18 Step 2 Preparation Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 18

19 STEP 2. PREPARATION The second step is about changing your mindset. Before you can change your life, you need to reprogram your mind. You will work on your mindset and tap into your subconscious mind and accelerate the process of success creation. This step is where we build a psychological foundation to maximize your inner strengths and minimize your doubts. This will strengthen your belief that you are going to succeed. Understand the Unconscious Mind The unconscious mind is what drives us. All profound change happens at the subconscious level. The reason being the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality. Any thought you consciously choose to impress upon the sub-conscious again and again, becomes fixed in this part of your persona. Law of Attraction A lot of people do not get what they want for very simple reasons. It all comes down to the law of attraction. You attract your most dominant thoughts. If you are acting, thinking, or feeling negative you will only attract negativity in your life. If you are acting, thinking, or feeling positive, you will attract the positive in your life! Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes, And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills, Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:- He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass: Environment is but his looking-glass. - James Allen The problem with most people is that they see and feel what they don't want. and that's what they get fast and often. The law of attraction is the most powerful law in the universe. Basically you get what you think about, whether you want it or not. If you are constantly thinking about the things that you desire, your life experience reflects those things but on the other hand if you are mainly thinking about the things that you do not want, the universe delivers exactly what you do not want. Any negativity will only attract more negative actions, feelings and thoughts. It is a vicious circle where you will likely never get what you want if you do not change these things. So make sure you focus and feel only those things that you wish to happen. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 19

20 Steps of Law of Attraction are really simple Step 1: Know What You Want Step 2: Ask For It Step 3: Be Ready To Receive Of course you need to take action towards what you want as well. By not acting upon your goal, your goal will only be a dream. Thoughts, Feelings and action guarantees success. When all these three are in alignment, you can get anything you desire and you deserve. Be willing to receive Successful people possess a skill that unsuccessful people do not have. On a subconscious level they are ready to receive whatever is coming their way. The ability to receive is key to being successful. You must be willing to receive what the universe can provide with joy, with no guilt, shame or negative feeling. There is nothing wrong with having a desire to receive. In order for you to help others, you must have the ability to receive before you can share with others. Visualize Now close you eyes and visualize a beautiful, beautiful yellow lemon. It s so soft and juicy. Now imagine you take a knife and you slice it in half. You take one half and you whole-heartedly bite into it. Is your mouth watering? Visualization is the easiest and cheapest creation tool that you can find. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality. You can use visualizations to create a beautiful life for yourself or to deal with life's challenges, from being overweight to fear of public speaking. You can heal even yourself and others through visualizing perfect health. Sometimes you may find that you focus on what you do not want instead of what you do want. You can easily change this by focusing and visualizing on your dream, and imagining that you already have achieved what you want. Begin to focus on your dreams, not what you do not want, and attract the positive things with positive visualization! Now go ahead visualize your ideal life. Create a beautiful vision of what your life will look like one year from now, five years from now, ten years from now, twenty years form now etc. Describe to yourself in detail how it makes you feel when you Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 20

21 have achieved your goal where you are living, who you are spending time with and what you are doing. Get all your 5 senses involved to really feel that you already have achieved this. Visualize in your mind that you have already achieved your future. What does it look like? What does it smell like? What does it taste like? What does it feel like? What does it sound like? Visualize your future. Just visualize your future as you want it to be. At least a week before going into action on your goals, each day visualize yourself in action as often as you possibly can. Practice visualization everyday before going into the action stage of your project. Visualization preceding the action stage will firm up your commitment and strengthen your inner strength. Visualize your goals and yourself in action continually. If you are having a challenge to visualize there are tools in the market that can help you visualize better. The one that I use is called Attraction Accelerator Create a Vision Board You can also create a vision board to remind you of your goals. A Vision Board will guarantee the fact that you ll remember every single day from now on the goals you want to achieve. Make sure you display it where you can see it often, such as across your bed or table where you work. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 21

22 Whenever I feel like giving up, I would gaze at my vision board. It gives me energy to go on and in addition would remember my ultimate ten year goal. A vision board is easy to create. There are basically 3 tasks to creating one: 1. Select the picture that visualizes your vision or your dream in each area of your life. Choose the picture that visualizes your dream job, a lovely family or love life, optimal health and fitness, being a wealthy person and whatever else you desire. Find a beautiful thing or a symbol that represents what you want to own in your life. 2. Write down or print out goals and, or affirmations describing what you want to achieve. 3. Glue the pictures and the power phrases all together on a board. Easy! Now go ahead and start designing your vision board! Remember you have to display your vision board where you can see it often throughout the day. Practice Daily Affirmation The process of repetition using affirmations can modify or create new beliefs about a person s identity. Eventually, the affirmation will dominate over the previous beliefs in the person s subconscious and will automatically produce the matching behavior. To make affirmations effective they have to: Support your values, Be specific Be in present tense Be positive Be short and simple You have to get emotionally involved with your affirmation. If you don t get excited about what you are saying, it s unlikely that your subconscious mind is going to believe it. Here are some sample affirmations: I love my life, I am so blessed. I am in perfect health. I love my job. Success comes to me easily and effortlessly. I am a successful businessman. I am a money magnet. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 22

23 I am enjoying my life with my happy family. I am in a loving relationship. My family loves me exactly as I am. I am perfectly healthy and fit. I am healthy in body, mind and spirit. I am fit and energetic. Every cell, nerve, tissue organ in my body is perfect. There is so much joy in my home. I have all the resources to accomplish all my goals. Money comes to me in increasing quantities. Now it s your turn. Write at least ten affirmations in support of your dreams an goals. Memorize them by heart and read them out loud. Say these affirmations as if you really mean it. Say them a few times each day. You can do it while you are getting ready in the morning, taking a shower, when you are doing your morning run or when you are driving. The more you put into practice, the more real it becomes to you. My Daily Affirmation The secret to productive goal setting is in establishing clearly defined goals, writing them down and then focusing on them several times a day with words, pictures and emotions as if we've already achieved them. - Denis Waitley Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 23

24 Get Grateful There is a magnetic and powerful power in gratitude. Gratitude increases your abundant life. The more grateful you are. the more abundance will be showered upon you. Gratitude becomes the cause instead of the effect. This step in the creation process is crucial. When we don t appreciate and celebrate what we already have in our life, we are slowing down the creation process. When we are ungrateful and focus on what s missing in our lives; when we complain about not having enough money or not having nice friends that is what you get more of. Make gratitude a way of life. Live it! Express gratitude in your life every day. Start the day and end it with I am grateful for. Throughout the day count your blessings and express them. Gratitude will bring more into our lives immediately. Now think about what you are grateful for in your life and start writing. What I am grateful for in My Life I am grateful for Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 24

25 Find a Mentor You do not have to reinvent the wheel! Duplicate those who have been successful in the area that you want improvement. Learn from someone else s experience. It will make the road to achieving your dreams easier and faster. If you want to make a million in a year find someone who has done it and model what they do to achieve success. Mentors can provide you with the wisdom, guidance, advice and encouragement as you set goals. Find someone who knows more about the area of your goal than you do, and learn as much as you can from them. First and foremost clearly define what it is you want the mentor to do. Select a mentor based on a clearly defined purpose, specific need, reasonable expectations, accessibility and availability, and, finally on a comfort level appropriate to the situation. If you want to make ten million dollars, make sure you choose someone who has already achieved that. Choose someone you admire. You don t necessarily have to admire everything about them. Because you disagree with certain elements of their life, you should not disregard him or her completely. Be aware of their time commitments. Select a mentor that has the time and is willing to help you to reach your goals. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 25

26 Mentor Checklist What do I want my mentor to do? Mentor Requirement 1. Is he/she successful in the particular area that you want to succeed in? 2. Has he/she already done what you want to do? 3. Does he/she has the knowledge to guide you? 4. Do you aspire to be like him/her? 5. Is he/she an all around good role model? 6. Do you admire & respect him/her? 7. Does he/she has similar values to you 8. Do you trust his/her judgment? 9. Are you comfortable with him/her? 10. Is he available and willing to help you? Yes/ No Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 26

27 Step 3 Goal Creation and Planning Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 27

28 STEP 3. GOAL CREATION & PLANNING Write down your goals Writing down your goals is a critical first step, as it provides the foundation on which to build your dreams. Writing it down, along with your specific action plan will make your goal more concrete. Studies have shown that people who write down the list of things they want to do are more likely to accomplish them. Putting your goal in writing sets up a filter that helps you become aware of your surroundings. Once you write down a goal, your brain will be working overtime to see you get it, and will alert you to the signs and signals that were there all along. Read your goals everyday and program it in your subconscious mind. Let your goals be your dominant thought. Brainstorm Your Dream Everyday life is challenging, but it is important to make time to sit down and reflect on your future. Where do you want to be in five years from now? 10 years from now? 20 years from now? Let s do a bit of Brainstorming: Dream Starter Brainstorm Brainstorm a list of anything you would like to achieve, be, do, have, create, give and/or experience. Let your mind go crazy. Write down everything that you want in your life if you have no limitations. Imagine that you have all the resources, all the money, all the intelligence, all the power, all the contacts in the world. Don t limit yourself. What do you want more in your life? Just imagine that you can be, do and have anything in your life. Be that little boy or little girl that will not take no for an answer. If your life were perfect what would it be like? Okay now go! Get a pen, put on some inspiring music and start writing. Don t stop until you have filled up the form on the next 3 pages. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 28

29 Who I want to BE. What I want to Do. What I want to Have My Dream Timeline Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 29

30 Who I want to BE. What I want to DO. What I want to HAVE My Dream Timeline Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 30

31 Who I want to BE. What I want to DO. What I want to HAVE My Dream Timeline Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 31

32 Create Your Future Vision Now decide on a timeline for your goals. Go through your list and write down when you want to achieve the goal i.e. 6 months,1,3,5,10,15, or 20 years. Now pick your top goal and create your future vision. My Goal By 20 I am so happy and grateful now that. Now ask yourself these 6 key questions What? Ask yourself what you really want. Write down the goal you want to achieve. Why? Ask yourself why you want to achieve the goal. If you don t really want to accomplish it, you will unlikely make the commitment to see it through. You must have a compelling reason as to why you want to achieve this goal. If you aren t emotionally invested in the goal, it will hold no enjoyment in its accomplishment. Where? Ask yourself where you are right now in relation to your goal. You need to identify where you are right now and where you want to be. If you don t know where you are how can you reach your destination? Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 32

33 How? Ask yourself how I will achieve this goal. Write down your specific action plan to reach your desired goal. Who? Ask yourself who can help you with your goal? When? Ask yourself when you want it. What is your target date? Goal Planning Questions My Goal: What do you really want to accomplish? Why do you want to achieve this goal? Come up with at least 3 compelling reasons Where are you now in relation to your goal? How will you achieve this goal? Write down your specific action plan to reach your desired goal and a deadline. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 33

34 Who can help you with your goal? List down each and everyone s specific role. When is your target date you want to achieve this goal? Identify a specific date. Who do you need to be? What kind of person will it take to achieve what you want? Who do you need to be to achieve this goal? What empowering beliefs do you need to have to achieve this goal? What values would be important to support your goal? What consistent behavior and action do you need to achieve this goal? Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 34

35 Remember, what you get by reaching your destination isn't nearly as important as what you become by reaching your goals -- what you will become is the winner you were born to be! - Zig Ziglar Make your resolution manageable Don t go out and say you re going to quit smoking and start cold turkey. Instead, make a concrete plan to cut down to just two or three a day for a week, and then one cup less for every day the next week, and so-on. Implementing gradual change builds a strong foundation for your success. Create Well-Formed Goal Statement Careful attention should be placed on constructing a clear and accurate goal statement. An effective approach to defining your goals is to utilize the SMART goal format. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time bound. S = M = A = R = T = Specific: Do you know exactly what you want to accomplish with all the details? I want to make $100,000 from my internet marketing business within 1 year from today is better than I want to make a lot of money. Measurable: Can you quantify your progress so you can track it? How will the goal be measured? Are you able to assess your progress? Action Oriented: Active goals tell you what specific action you are taking and include includes strong action do it words that keep you moving forward Realistic: Is your goal a stretch but still possible to achieve? Having high goals that stretch you is important, but you need to also need to create goals that are realistic for your situation and skill level. Time Bound: Goals have a clearly defined time-frame including a target date. Is it trackable and allows for monitoring of progress? By spending some tome towards making sure that your goals fit the SMART criteria, you will ensure success. Now go ahead and create your well formed statements. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 35

36 My Goal Statement Break down Goals into manageable Steps Milestone Goals My Goal: Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 36

37 No. Milestone Target Date Actual Date Think of all the activities required to get you closer to your goals. You need to list the steps that your goal requires and give each of these steps a time frame. As you list them down, break down the ones that seem daunting into smaller steps so you will not feel intimidated. Action List My Goal: Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 37

38 No. Activity Target Date Actual Date Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 38

39 Identify skills What skills would you need to develop in order to realize your goals? How are you going to invest in yourself? Skills Required How/Where To Obtain Skills Timeline Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 39

40 Recognize necessary resources. Consider what you need to accomplish your goals: Money? Additional education? A particular person s help? Determine how you will obtain these resources. Resources Required How To Obtain Resources Timeline Recognize Sacrifices Required Now think of all the sacrifices required to achieve your goal. What do you have to give up to get where you want. Sacrifices required Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 40

41 Remove the Road blocks Obstacles are circumstances or people that could affect your ability to achieve your goal. Therefore, identifying obstacles is vital to creating a good, well-formed goal. Think of what obstacles you can see to achieving the goal and brainstorm how you can potentially overcome it. List the obstacles that could keep you from attaining your new goal and brainstorm the various tasks required to remove obstacles. Obstacles and Solutions My Goal: Obstacle # 1: Solution 1: Solution 2: Solution 3: Solution 4: Solution 5: Obstacle # 2: Solution 1: Solution 2: Solution 3: Solution 4: Solution 5: Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 41

42 Obstacle # 3: Solution 1: Solution 2: Solution 3: Solution 4: Solution 5: Obstacle # 4: Solution 1: Solution 2: Solution 3: Solution 4: Solution 5: Obstacle # 5: Solution 1: Solution 2: Solution 3: Solution 4: Solution 5: Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 42

43 Share your goals Research has shown that individuals who share their goals with others are more likely to accomplish them. Your chance of accomplishing your goals is increased if you tell others; especially when you tell people who matter to you what you're going to do. Writing down a goal and then telling a friend or family member creates a psychological drive to follow through on your commitment. Sharing goals with others who can give you help and support is a highly effective way to increase your chances for success. Now write down 5 people you are going to share your goals with Ask for help If you are stuck or need help along the way just ask for it. You will be surprised how willing others are to help you. There are people who are good about helping others but shy about asking for help. They think they are not good enough or not worthy. Think of it this way; you are depriving others from helping you by not giving them the opportunity to help you. Now think of all the help that you need to pursue your goals and write it down on the next page. Help I need My Goal: Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 43

44 What I need help with 1. Who can help me Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 44

45 Build your Dream Team Assemble a winning team to support you. My Dream Team Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Name Address Phone Number Address Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 45

46 My Goal Plan Now that you have gone through the entire process of constructing a well formed goal, fill in the form below in detail. # Ultimate Goal Action Required Skills Required Resources Needed Sacrifices Required Obstacles Solutions Dead Line Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 46

47 Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life. - Les Brown Take the first steps Never leave the scene of goal setting without committing to take the first steps within 24 hours. List down 3 things you are committed to do to kick start your goal. First Steps Example: Call the bank to. Ask Mary if she will help me to Start researching on the internet for Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 47

48 Be committed Be committed to your dreams and life. Now sign a contract with yourself My commitment ` ` Contract with Myself My Goal I,, hereby commit to devote the time, mental energy and positive attitude needed to achieve this goal. I am ready to change my life! This commitment is a binding contract I make with myself. Signature Witnessed by Date Date Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 48

49 Step 4 Take Action Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 49

50 STEP 4. TAKE ACTION If you have completed your well formed goal statements, you are ready to execute your way to success. If you have not, go back and make sure you complete it first before reading this section. Just Do It The truth is, you can create goals, you can use the law of attraction and you can visualize for days and months. However, if you do not take action on any of these things, nothing will happen! You must be willing to make the necessary actions to achieve what you want out of your life and your future. No matter how carefully you plan your goals they will never be more than pipe dreams unless you pursue them with gusto. - W. Clement Stone Take Action towards at least one of your goals each day. Goals don't just "happen." You reach them incrementally, by taking positive, steady steps towards them each and every day. Don t just think or talk, TAKE ACTION! If you analyze too much, it will cause paralysis. Implement NOW! Do not wait for the perfect time or conditions. If you are willing to do what most people don t want to do for the next few years, you will finally get what most people don t realize in their lifetime! Know your goal, make a plan and pull the trigger. - Phil C. McGraw Create Momentum Overcome inertia by taking any small action. That is the easiest way you can do to get started. Mini-actions produce momentum. Begin at the point of least resistance. Once you create this active inertia, see if you can do it a little bit longer. Create momentum in spite of fearful thoughts or lethargic feeling.. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 50

51 Focus! Focus! Focus! Once you are focused on your goals you begin to notice resources you didn t know you had. Keep on thinking about your goal. There are so many things that can distract us from doing what we want to do that is why having a goal is so important. Cultivate Good Habits Habits can serve us wisely and provide us with great powers to achieve our goals. We can train and educate ourselves, through habit, to do a lot of things automatically and thus save time and energy. We react to the world the way we have programmed ourselves to do. We will keep getting the same results unless we change our programmed habits. It takes 21 days to form a new habit as proven by Dr Maxwell Maltz. So if you want to start a new habit, you have to do it for 21 consecutive days. If you miss a day, then you have to start from day one all over again. We can form habits that will make our lives healthy and beautiful, or we can continue to do things that will lead us nowhere. It s our choice. Excellence is not a singular act, but a habit. You are what you repeatedly do. -- Shaquille ONeal Let go of Perfection It doesn t have to be perfect. You need to let got of the need for perfection, so you can accomplish a lot more in the long run. Perfection is the lowest human standard because we know it can t be reached! - Tony Robbins Overcome Procrastination Everyone procrastinates at some point in their life but if you are an extreme procrastinator to the point that you never accomplish anything then you need to Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 51

52 change. There are various reasons why people procrastinate but the most common reasons are fear of failure, fear of being imperfect and fear of being overwhelmed. You may not believe you will ever achieve what you want, so you procrastinate and eventually never take action to get what you want. So how do you eliminate procrastination? Here are some tips to help overcome procrastinations: Don t wait until you feel like it. Start Now! The situation will never be ideal. Chunk it down. Don t let yourself get overwhelmed by the size or the complexity of a project. Ask the saying goes, How do you eat an elephant? A bite at a time. Don t demand perfection from yourself. Remind yourself that you don t have to do everything perfectly. Reward yourself with something that you really love every time you finish a task. It will motivate you to get cracking and finish the task quickly. Make sure the reward is commensurate with the task at hand. Enjoy the Journey Have fun. Enjoy the process and the journey. Ask yourself what can I do to make it a level 10 experience? We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us that we don't take time to enjoy where we are. - Calvin & Hobbs Associate with the right people When going gets tough go to a coach, support group, a loved one. Get encouragement and support. Surround yourself with people who are positive, who share your vision and who are going to support you. Stay away from people who are what I call energy suckers. You know the kind of people who are negative and will drag you down with them. These are people who will shoot down any ideas you have and tell you that you will never achieve your dream. Grab a Buddy Everyone needs to be cheered on once in a while. Grab a buddy to accompany you on some of the tasks that you want to do to get you closer to your goals. Say Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 52

53 you and your friend decide that you want to lose weight and be fit, start going to the gym together. Rewrite Your Goals Daily Write down your goals everyday. By writing and rewriting your goals everyday, you will become clearer about what you want and be more convinced about achieving your goals. You will start to attract people and resources into your life that can help you achieve your goals faster. Keep On Visualizing Your Goals Remember to use visualization and affirmation daily. Throughout the day visualize your goals as if they already existed. These are easy and free tools that you can use to your advantage. Use them many times during the day, starting from when you first get up in the morning and before you drift off to sleep at night. They are essential tools to your success. Manage Your Time Improve your time management skills. You cannot manage your time; you can only manage the use of your time. In other words, you have to manage yourself. It is about mastering yourself. Invest your time as opposed to spending your time. Before doing any activity, ask yourself, does it move me closer to my goals or move me away from my goals? Minimize the activities that move you away from your goal and embrace the activities that get me going towards my goal. Identify small pockets of time in your day that are underutilized such as getting up earlier. Take advantage of commuting time. If you are taking the train or the bus, you can read or do some paperwork. If you are driving you can listen to tapes or CDs that can help you improve your life. Get rid of unnecessary tasks. People frequently weigh themselves down with things that really aren t important, like cleaning every day or going to the grocery store daily. These are the BIG little things that eat away your time and leave you Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 53

54 feeling like you haven t accomplished much of anything. Identify these problem areas, get rid of them and you ll save yourself bundles of time. Learn how to say no. You simply have to stop offering yourself up and learn to delegate tasks to others. If it s at work, find someone else who can easily handle the task. If it s at home, get the kids to help out. You have to realize that you just can t do everything and that s okay. Milestone Create a calendar marked with clear milestones. It s important to check in with your resolution goals daily to give yourself a visual aid of accomplishment. Your calendar will also give you the opportunity to shift milestones as needed or boost your confidence to continue as you review your progression. Plan Your Day Ahead Make sure you plan your day ahead. This will only take you 10 minutes per day but it will help you to become more productive. Ideally you should do this the evening or night before. When you get up the next day, you will know exactly what you need to achieve for the day and you are ready to get going. What s talked about is a dream, What s envisioned is exciting, What s planned become possible, What s scheduled is real. - Anthony Robbins. Copyright 2007 Zainah Zainalabidin 54