After interviewing 49 guests from from 8 countries across 4 continents around the world to find out how they have learned to get out of their own damn way, I spent countless hours pouring over 25+ hours of audio interviews and 100+ pages of notes to find the best nuggets of wisdom from these worldwide experts. I came up with a 4 step model for getting out of your own damn way based on these interviews and my work with clients and students over the years. Hi, I m Krylyn Peters. known as The Fear Whisperer, and my mission is to help female entrepreneurs and wantrepreneurs tame their fear, embrace their greatness, and get out of their own damn way so they can create their mission-filled, heart-centered, soulinspired business. If you are looking for the support and inspiration along your entrepreneurial journey, this is it. Curl up, buttercup, cause we re about to uncover Step 3 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin Greatness Already. If you missed the worksheets for Steps 1 or 2, grab your copies: Step 1: Know Yourself to Greatness Worksheet Step 2: Accept Yourself to Greatness Worksheet 1
Step 3: Be Yourself You d think that knowing yourself and accepting yourself would be enough to fully embrace your greatness and get out of your own damn way. But you d be wrong. A HUGE theme that came up as I interviewed my podcast guests was that of following the path we re meant to take. We sometimes stay in a box without even realizing it the box of the good employee, or the good partner, or the good mother. In other words, we re playing that damn GOOD GIRL role we were cast in long ago, and letting it play out in every area of our lives. There s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a good or great job, relationship, or family. But what I hear a lot is that while it may be a fantastic situation on paper, it just isn t matching our vision for our lives. We long for more. Something s missing. We re being called to a higher purpose. And for many of us, that calling doesn t go away simply because we re enjoying our lives. What happens is that if we ignore the call, our lives begin to fall apart, making it less a choice we ve made than an answer to a call we ignored for far too long. Not being yourself can look like: Having a really good life or job but not really being happy or satisfied Trying to fit in a box of what is expected rather than what we truly want Lusting after other people s lives Talking ourselves out of going for it because of what others might think The path to true greatness involves being who you are. That means giving up the good-girl, people-pleasing nonsense that was ingrained in so many of us. Here s one way to shed that role: Let your light shine. I ve been categorizing different profiles of my clients and students for a while now, and I have to say the one where we hide in the 2
shadows and don t own our value is one of the biggest ones I m seeing these days. I call it Wallflower Syndrome. Remember at the junior high dance those girls standing against the wall waiting to be asked to dance? Key word waiting. How many of us are waiting for the time to be right, enough money to be in the bank, circumstances to be perfect, and the universe to line things up just so in order to START. It doesn t even matter what you re waiting to start. The point is PERFECTIONSIM is keeping you from shining. So what if things aren t perfect? So what if you re working fulltime? So what if you weigh more than you want? So what if you re juggling a million balls right now? You are NOT your bank balance, your weight, your excuses. You are destined for greatness and need to embrace that reality so you can stop feeling so miserable, dissatisfied, and unfilled, AND so that you can help others heal in only the way you can. Be bold. Be brave. Be Yourself. Once we let our light shine, we can play a little in the world of possibilities. Live in the possibilities. What do I mean by possibilities? All those yummy, awesomesauce, fudge-covered DREAMS and GOALS you have. It s the place you probably lived in during at least part of your childhood the part that got squashed as you got older and the shoulds took over. The land of possibilities is also where our greatness lies. It involves creativity, fun, play, and all the child-like things we sometimes do silently in our minds when others are acting a hot mess. 3
It s the dance like no one is watching and sing like no one is listening place. Full of YES and wonder and what if, rather than NO and if only and yeah, but. Step 3 in Action Answer the following questions: What does NOT being yourself look like for you? What is NOT being yourself protecting you from? What would really being yourself open up for you? 4
Write out a mantra or affirmation you can say daily to remind yourself to be who you are: Time to play in your possibilities: Taking away all excuses, perfectionism, and negativity what is possible for you? Take some deep breaths, relax, and imagine your life and business. What do you SEE, FEEL, and HEAR? WHO do you see? WHERE are you? WHAT are you doing? HOW are you helping those you are here to serve? 5
How can you be yourself even more right now? Come on over to the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Community on Facebook to be yourself with the group. In Worksheet 4 (of 4), we ll explore Step 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin Greatness Already. If you re ready for some support to get out of your own damn way and embrace your greatness, sign up on the WAIT LIST for my new program, Embrace Your Greatness Bootcamp. We ll take everything I m sharing about each of the 4 Steps to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and put it all on steroids! Guests on the waiting list will get dibs on registering AND a special bonus upon registering not available to anyone else. Grab your wait list spot at krylyn.com/bootcamp. 6