Stress Management for The Overworked, Overscheduled And Overwhelmed Rita Emmett June 15, 2015 10:30 - noon Session #25075
RITA EMMETT 2331 Eastview Drive (847) 699-9950 Des Plaines, IL 60018 E-MAIL: Rita@RitaEmmett.com WEB: RitaEmmett.com The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. --Reinhold Niebuhr Prayer for Work Lord, help me to sort out what I should do first, second and third today and not try to do everything at once and nothing well, Give me the wisdom to delegate what I can & prioritize the things I can't delegate, to say no when I need to, and the sense to know when to go home. Senior Citizen Serenity Prayer God grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked anyway; the good fortune to run into the ones I do; and the eyesight to tell the difference.
STRESS: It comes from trying to do too much, for too many people, in too little time, in an environment that is too hard to deal with. When you let go of trying to control an inflexible environment and all the people in it - you stop struggling with fantasy and the pain of unrealistic expectations. You let go of STRESS! STRESS: The reaction or response of the body and mind to demands made upon us. RITA EMMETT (847) 699-9950 www.ritaemmett.com
RITA EMMETT 2331 Eastview Drive (847) 699-9950 Des Plaines, IL 60018 E-MAIL: REmmett412@aol.com WEB: RitaEmmett.com SELF-TALK THAT COULD HELP YOU CHANGE YOUR REACTION OR RESPONSE When you feel stressed, try telling yourself: If this is the worst thing that ever happens to me, I m leading a pretty good life. If this is the worst mistake I ever make, then I m leading a pretty good life. If this is the worst thing my child ever does, then I m leading a pretty good life. If this goes wrong, I ll survive it. It doesn t make sense to expect perfection from myself, others or life. This is an imperfect world. Everyone doesn t have to do what I want them to do or do things my way, and I m OK with that. It s OK for me to not agree with someone or tell someone I m hurt. It s OK for me too tired or busy to do something that is not important to me. Will this matter six months from now? Will I still be worried about this a year from now? Worry is unproductive. I ll write my worry in a worry notebook, date it and stop dwelling on it. I don t have to solve everyone s problems. No matter what is going wrong in my life, I will look for something to be grateful for today. Instead of blaming someone for this, it s OK for me to take responsibility for it. Taking responsibility for something doesn t mean I will blame myself constantly for everything wrong with the world or my life. My anger doesn t hurt the one I m angry with; it hurts only me. It s OK if they don t do something to make me happy. I m in charge of becoming happy. What part of this is upsetting me? Why am I upset? So what if they didn t like it, I like it I made a mistake; now what can I learn from it? So what if they don t agree, I have a right to have an opinion It s OK for me to ask for help and it s OK for someone to refuse me It s not possible to make everyone happy There s always someone who will dislike/hate/criticize me ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --- Eleanor Roosevelt
RITA EMMETT 847-699-9950 email: REmmett412@aol.com RULES FOR MEMBERSHIP IN THE BURN-OUT CLUB (Follow these rules, and you re guaranteed to burn-out) 1. Never accept anything less than perfection. 2. Work at least ten hours a day. 3. Work as many holidays and weekends as possible. 4. Always eat fast foods and candy bars for that quick energy. 5. Drink lots of caffeinated beverages. 6. Be an inflexible idealist. 7. Assume the responsibility for solving the problems of all your friends, family and co-workers. 8. Never, ever delegate any responsibility. 9. Never say no. 10. Try to please all the people all of the time. 11. Never waste time relaxing. 12. Never exercise. 13. Never take any time off for yourself. (If you are ever forced to do so, feel as guilty as possible about it.) 14. Always remember to put everyone s needs before yours. 15. Above all, get emotionally involved in everything you do. Learn to empathize in all aspects of your life.
Sample: The Anticrastination Tip Sheet From Rita Emmett Author of The Procrastinator's Handbook and Manage Your Time to Reduce Your Stress: A Handbook for the Overworked, Overscheduled and Overwhelmed ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. ~~ anonymous A MESSAGE FROM RITA IDEAS TO RECHARGE YOUR BATTERY Dear Readers, Every now and then all of us feel overwhelmed, or in a rut because of daily hassles. Worries about children, aging parents, health of a family member, work or lack of work, home maintenance, or too many things to do - these are some of the concerns of everyday life. No wonder we feel stressed -- as if our batteries are run down. By making some changes to take care of yourself, you can start to relax and maybe even find some renewed energy. Try to think of one small positive change you can make in your life this day, this week, this year. Below are a few suggestions you may wish to try to give yourself some self care and nourishment. 1. Sit quietly for ten minutes when you come home from work - let your whole body relax. 2. Take a walk each day - by yourself or with a friend. 3. Take a warm bath in candlelight instead of bright bathroom lights. Turn on some soothing music and enjoy. 4. Be lazy for a day. Watch TV, or surround yourself with books and magazines you ve been meaning to read. 5. Take yourself out to dinner. 6. Phone someone you care about but with whom you ve lost touch. Make a date to get together soon. 7. Enroll in a class or activity you have always wanted to learn about. 8. Share your feelings with a friend. 9. See a good movie. 10. Begin an exercise program - on your own, with a friend or enroll in an exercise class.
11. Turn off your phone off for an hour (or even more) and enjoy the quiet. 12. Go through the boxes of family photos you ve been collecting and organize them into a beautiful scrapbook you ll treasure. 13. Go to a gallery, museum or tourist spot you ve always wanted to visit but were saving for out-of- town guests. This time treat yourself. 14. Make a list of 5 things that you like about yourself. Keep it handy and read it when you re feeling low. (You can add to it whenever the spirit moves you.) 15. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and be imperfect - it s human. 16. Consider to stop doing something you've always resented doing, but have felt that you should do. You may discover that the world will not end because you have said I cannot do this anymore. 17. Post this page on the bathroom mirror so you re sure to notice it on days when you need to re-charge your battery. Whether you can choose one of the ideas listed here or come up with one of your own, know how important it is to take care of yourself. Make a point of doing it. You deserve to be taken care of - just because you re you! IF YOU DON T TAKE CARE OF YOU, WHO WILL??? Warmly, Rita ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* To subscribe to this Tip Sheet go to www.ritaemmett.com & scroll toward the bottom of the page or call Rita at 847-699-9950 Rita Emmett is a "Recovered Pack Rat", a Professional Speaker, and best - selling author of The Procrastinator s Handbook The Clutter-Busting Handbook and Manage Your Time to Reduce Your Stress: A Handbook for the Overworked, Overscheduled and Overwhelmed Go to www.ritaemmet.com for info on Stress Management, Procrastination and Clutter. You will find books, CDs and DVDs. Because people learn in different ways, she also produces 30-day online courses where you receive a 3-minute message from Rita every day for a month helping you break the Procrastination and Clutter Habits. Rita can be reached at 847-699-9950 or REmmett412@aol.com.
THE LAKE ISLE OF INNISFREE by William Butler Yeats I will arise and go now, and go to Innisfree, And a small cabin build there, of clay and wattles made; Nine bean-rows will I have there, a hive for the honey-bee, And live alone in the bee-loud glade. And I shall have some peace there, for peace come dropping slow, Dropping from the veils of the morning to where the cricket sings; There midnight s all a glimmer, and noon a purple glow, And evening full of the linnet s wings. I will arise and go now, for always night and day I hear lake water lapping with low sound by the shore; While I stand on the roadway, or on the pavements grey, I hear it in the deep heart s core. RITA EMMETT (847) 699-9950