A personal note from Saskia It s one thing to be a Mother. It s another to be successful in your Calling. But how do you do both? If raising a family is part of your calling, it s the most fulfilling and challenging task you can ever imagine. When you become a mom you open up to a bigger version of yourself and learn that life changes overnight. Life isn t all about YOU anymore, but changes to a bigger responsibility of WE. However, I believe that the key to creating a better, happier world starts with YOU the mom. You are the queen of your household. Happy moms create happy families and happy families raise kids that thrive. Therefore, may you wear that crown, live up to your task, and create your own beautiful world with your family: a place where you and your tribe thrive in peace and happiness. Because families are the stepping-stones of society, we mothers, together with our partners, must realize our own big role, which starts in our own home. Right now, next to giving birth and nurturing our children, we are called forth to give birth to your talents and nurture our gifts at the same time. That s the new code of motherhood. You can have it all and do both. It s not an either or conversation anymore. But here s the truth:
To be a happy mom AND be successful in your business it requires a structure in your home so you have guilt free undivided time for you, your partner, your children, and the creative urges that flow through you. To be a mom who loves motherhood, lives her calling and raises kids that thrive, you must be in touch with your Soul s unique path, too. Only to the degree that a mother is in touch with her unique Soul s path, can she guide her kids on their unique Soul s path. That s why I have created the busy mompreneur s checklist that includes a check in with your Soul, too. Let this list inspire you. Just know that it s crucial to go over the check marks daily. Add your own daily tasks to it. Of course, this is only a handful, and you can come up with many more. The best way to work with the checklist is to print out each day of the week. With lots of joy, Saskia
Contents A personal note from Saskia... 1 Busy Mompreneuer s Success Tips... 6 Busy Mompreneur's Success Tip #1... 6 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 2... 7 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 3... 8 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 4... 9 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 5... 10 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 6... 11 Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 7... 12 MONDAY... 13 Ask yourself how you want to feel today.... 13 Monday s Checklist... 13 TUESDAY... 14 Become Aware of how you speak.... 14 Tuesday s Checklist... 14 WEDNESDAY... 15 Start getting in tune with the energy of your Soul. Dress the part.... 15 Wednesday s Checklist... 15
THURSDAY... 16 How bright is your light shining today?... 16 Thursday s Checklist... 16 FRIDAY... 17 Nurture your relationship with your partner.... 17 Friday s Checklist... 17 A Final Word to Busy Mompreneurs... 17
Busy Mompreneuer s Success Tips Busy Mompreneur's Success Tip #1 Take a sacred moment and be still. When you wake up, scan your day, when can you have your alone time? Make this moment of alone time a sacred moment. Sip your tea or coffee and cozy up with yourself. Make time to listen within. Too many people shy away from this because they think they don't have time! Did you know that you have a voice inside of you? A voice that is in charge of your destiny? When you practice creating sacred time with yourself you ll start getting in touch with the voice within. You can believe it, acknowledge it, or ignore it. But the voice is there, waiting to be heard. It s the voice so bluntly honest that it leaves no room for doubt when it speaks up. Practice the courage to listen. When we lived in Holland with our five kids (all under the age of nine), I woke up one morning and my Soul said, Move to America. Go live your dream. Living in America was my dream. In short, we bought a house over the phone, gave up everything we loved in Holland, left our country, and moved to America. We had hardly any money, no contracts, and no jobs waiting. The kids didn t speak a word of English. But we took the leap. Practice to listen to the voice within. She guides you to your destiny. This alone time activates the voice of your Soul.
Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 2 Choose one Self-Care Self Love ritual. This tool is of major importance because as moms we forget to take care of ourselves first. It s natural to reach out to your children first and give them more than you have. Make sure you put the oxygen mask on first! Relax! Brain biology science shows that your high stress levels impact your child s brain biology. This starts in the womb. When your kids are crabby, love yourself more. When they are behaving like spoiled brats, nurture yourself more. When they drive you crazy, schedule a massage or go for tea with your girlfriends. Don t take anything they say to you personally; they don t mean it. Find at least 10 minutes every day to do something you love. Schedule it right into your calendar to read for 10 minutes, dance or do 10 minutes of window shopping or chat on the phone with a girlfriend for 10 minutes. Whatever it is that fuels you up! Take a luxurious bath at peak time. I used to do this and still do. At around 5:30 in the evening and especially in winter I love taking a bath when I am supposed to start cooking or when all kinds of things need to get done.
Over all the years I ve done this, I ve never had complaints from the kids, only surprised looks every now and then. By now they are used to me taking baths at odd hours, and they are doing the same thing! Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 3 Give gratitude. Write it on the Family Gratitude Board. Affirm daily your thankfulness and gratitude. Affirm daily to those you love that All is Well. That activates the brain to get in alignment with the goodness of the Universe. Bringing yourself into the frequency of gratitude is the fastest way to align to your Soul. Create a Family gratitude board - with kids activities. We can t always eat together and share our day. Hang a dry erase board somewhere in the center of your house and make sure everyone in the family who's able to write takes just 10 seconds to write on the board every day something they were grateful for. As you talk to your kids in at night mention what they wrote as a way of recognizing their gratitude and opening the lines of communiction. When you bring them to bed ask them what was the least favorite part of their day, what was the highlight of their day and what are they thankful for. We used to ask our kids these questions and it always was such a nice way to close the day. Make sure your last question is about the positive part of the day.
Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 4 Eat at the table for family dinners. Break bread together. Create a cozy atmosphere and make it a habit to sit down with your family at the table when they eat. In these moments the family creates a deep bond. They learn to talk and they learn to listen to each other. If you don t start early it will get harder as they grow up. Swap stories and teach them to listen to each other and discuss different topics. When our kids were young we would ask questions like: What was the best part of your day? What didn t you like about your day? This creates connection. Research proves that eating together with your kids at the dinner table impacts their social skills and intelligence. It s not always possible to eat together due to all the kids activities, but strive for sitting at the table together. Growing up in Europe showed me that in America the culture is different, however, I believe that practice makes the master. If you re not used to sitting at the table together, start with it today. It will be the best decsion you ve ever made for your family.
Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 5 Give your kids your undivided attention. Be fully present. Even for 5 minutes. Don t sit behind your computer in the same room and think because you re physically present that it is enough. Five minutes of undivided attention is better than five hours of split focus from behind your computer. Learn to be present emotionally and spiritually so you can tune into them at any time. This is of very high value, especially during puberty.
Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 6 Care for your guy; give him your undivided attention. Appreciate him out loud. Don t assume he knows how you feel about him. Be more explicit than simply, I love you. Take every once in a while, one full minute and tell him what you love about him. Switch sides. Care for him like you care for your kids. Men also love undivided attention. As a couple, you need it. Let the kids be the kids when you talk with him; teach them to have respect for your alone time. Don t walk around like a slob in the house each day, but make an effort to keep the attraction alive. He ll notice, even though he might not say it. Cook for just the two of you. Have your Happy Hour daily. I believe that is what kept our marriage so alive was that despite the hustle and bustle of five young kids running around, we had enough alone time amidst them. I always cooked twice each night: once for my kids at 5:30, when I would sit down with them while they ate and talk, and once at 7:30, when my husband came home. We first had a glass of wine together and then ate dinner. This way we had time to talk with each other every day. The kids would play around us but not interrupt, and somehow we all enjoyed this happy hour. Of course, when they get older things change, and then you eat together as a family.
We still have our happy hour, its one of those sacred moments of the day. Busy Mompreneur s Succes Tip # 7 Move your body. Walk, exercise, or dance for at least 20 minutes. Set your intention the evening before. Make a list- every night before going to sleep- of your intentions for the next day. You may set an intention of working out for 20 minutes or set an intention for something else completely. As moms we tend to think that during our day, spare time might open up for exercise. It never does. To accomplish an extra activity, you have to set your intention the night before and look at your schedule and pencil it in. Moving your body does not only releases stress, it activates your inner power and presence. Movement empowers your third chakra, which is related to your work in the world. To walk, or exercise or dance is of utmost importance. You feel better, you sleep better, your work better, and your mood is much better.
MONDAY Ask yourself how you want to feel today. What thought do you choose to feed your mind today? I often want to feel peace and joy; therefore, I feed my mind the message that all is well. I have kids who live all over the world, and I can worry a lot about if they are safe and okay. Therefore I must feed my mind the truth that the Universe takes care of them and that all is well. Write it down: What thought do you choose to feed your mind today? I want to feel: Therefore I choose to think: Monday s Checklist Take a sacred moment and be still. Create a Self-Care, Self-Love Ritual even if it s for 10 minutes. Give Gratitude and write it on the Family Gratitude Board Eat at the table with our family. Break bread together. Give undivided attention to our kids. Be present. Care for my guy; give him my undivided attention. Even 5 minutes. Move my body. Make my intention list.
TUESDAY Become Aware of how you speak. The spoken word holds enormous manifestation power. Last winter everyone kept saying that we lost power when the electricity went out. Even I said this, until I realized what I said. Did I really lose power? Speak in possibilities. Change your I can t into How can I? How will you change how your speak today? I will stop saying: I will start saying: Tuesday s Checklist Take a sacred moment and be still. Create a Self-Care, Self-Love Ritual even if it s for 10 minutes. Give Gratitude and write it on the Family Gratitude Board Eat at the table with our family. Break bread together. Give undivided attention to our kids. Be present. Care for my guy; give him my undivided attention. Even 5 minutes. Move my body. Make my intention list. TheNewCodeofMotherhood.com 2015 Saskia Roell
WEDNESDAY Start getting in tune with the energy of your Soul. Dress the part. When you get dressed in the morning, ask yourself what you feel like wearing today: a dress, something fun, something sexy? Tune into the colors. Be creative. Your Soul will tell you. Be surprised. How will you tune with the energy of your Soul? I want to feel: So I will dress: Wednesday s Checklist Take a sacred moment and be still. Create a Self-Care, Self-Love Ritual even if it s for 10 minutes. Give Gratitude and write it on the Family Gratitude Board Eat at the table with our family. Break bread together. Give undivided attention to our kids. Be present. Care for my guy; give him my undivided attention. Even 5 minutes. Move my body. Make my intention list. TheNewCodeofMotherhood.com 2015 Saskia Roell
THURSDAY How bright is your light shining today? Imagine your light permeates each cell of your body and radiate it out around you. Close your eyes and tune in to your inner flame. Spread your warmth to everyone you encounter today. Make the world a better place and don't be stingy. How will you make the world a better place today? I will radiate to those around me by: I will take time to appreciate: Thursday s Checklist Take a sacred moment and be still. Create a Self-Care, Self-Love Ritual even if it s for 10 minutes. Give Gratitude and write it on the Family Gratitude Board Eat at the table with our family. Break bread together. Give undivided attention to our kids. Be present. Care for my guy; give him my undivided attention. Even 5 minutes. Move my body. Make my intention list.
FRIDAY Nurture your relationship with your partner. Make sure your love relationship goes first. You two are the backbone of a thriving family. If the two of you are falling apart in your relationship it effects the children directly. Be both energetically filled up so you can share your love to the kids from an overflowing cup. Fridays are great for a date night. We have done that for years; I still look forward to it every week. How will you will Nuture Your Relationship Today? I will for my partner today. I will spend quality time with my partner today doing: Friday s Checklist Take a sacred moment and be still. Create a Self-Care, Self-Love Ritual even if it s for 10 minutes. Give Gratitude and write it on the Family Gratitude Board Eat at the table with our family. Break bread together. Give undivided attention to our kids. Be present. Care for my guy; give him my undivided attention. Even 5 minutes. Move my body. Make my intention list.
A Final Word to Busy Mompreneurs I m Saskia Röell. I know the extraordinary satisfaction of being a Mother and raising kids that thrive while doing the work I love. It is my privilege to share this gift with you. I have 5 kids who love to be home, I have a six-figure business, and after 25 years, when my husband walks in the door, my heart still skips a beat. In 2001, I woke up and heard the calling of my Soul. She was bold and clear. She told me that our family of seven was to move from Holland to America. I listened to her voice. We came to America on a plane that caught fire with 5 children and our dog. Without jobs or contacts, with hardly any money, and with five kids who didn t speak a word of English. It was the leap of a lifetime. Fourteen years later, I am a Mompreneur Family Success Mentor, Soul Purpose and Fertility expert. Over 20 years, I have taught women all over the world how to follow their Soul s calling and the importance of being in love with motherhood. A few years ago, I had a big aha moment. Even though I thought I was living my calling, I had always put Motherhood first. I was so afraid to lose balance and sacrifice my family and relationship that I didn t dare to play
full out. I thought maybe I should wait till the kids are older and I have more time My a-ha moment showed me that the time is NOW. There is no later I can t use my kids as an excuse to postpone my dream. They are part of the journey to get there. When I learned NOT to use my family as an excuse and to fully step into my purpose, my business started to bloom in a very big six-figure way. Until that time I played small and working in my business was actually harder. Now, I have a six-figure business, more money, more time, and a better structure in my home. I can take my kids on exotic vacations, which I had dreamed about for years. With love, Saskia Saskia Röell Mompreneur Family Success Mentor Soulpurpose and Fertility Expert www.thenewcodeofmotherhood.com