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Programme Your Mind For Success The biggest lesson I have ever learned in business and in life is that mindset is everything, because I know that what I think about and focus on, becomes my reality. Success is an inside job. Tell the truth do you sometimes come up with genius ideas and then think, I could never do that? I would guess that your answer is going to be yes. We all do it. I think sometimes we re so conditioned to be realistic that we end up stopping ourselves from believing that we can achieve our goals and turn our ideas into a reality. Let s be honest, we ve all got ideas floating around in our heads that we d love to make happen, but so often we never actually managed to get them out of our heads they just stay there, locked inside and never see the light of day! Usually the most common reason why they stay in our heads is because of two little words What if? What if... It doesn t work out? What if... People don t like it? What if... No one buys? What if... People laugh? What if... I can t do this? What if... My pricing is wrong? The list goes on and on with reasons for why it s not a good idea to go full speed ahead towards making our ideas a reality. We hold ourselves back, overthink everything, doubt ourselves, criticise ourselves, procrastinate and get stuck then most of the time we end up pushing the idea to the back of our minds it was a silly idea anyway! But was it? Or are you just fooling yourself because you re too scared, you don t have a clue how you re going to do it and you re so caught up in the what ifs and the doubts that you can t see a way of figuring it out? The truth is, for most of us the biggest battle we face in life is with ourselves. We can be our own worst enemy. I know that s true for me. In my life whenever I ve felt lost, confused, unmotivated, frustrated and downright hopeless I can guarantee you that it s because I ve been running the wrong programs in my mind my mindset has been off track, programmed for failure, not success. And whenever I ve felt really on top of everything, proactive, positive, motivated and hopeful I can guarantee you that it s because I ve been running the right programs in my head I am programmed for success. Turning your ideas into a reality, achieving success, living an extraordinary life is not reserved for a special few we can all do it, we just have to tap into the power of our mind and program ourselves for success, so that we can make massive progress and over the next 30 days that s exactly what we re going to be doing together. Page 2
Your destiny is determined by the choices you make. Choose now, choose well. Anthony Robbins
My Story A few years ago I began to realise the impact my mindset was having on my life. Back in 2010 I was running a successful business I d started while I was at university, but I d started to feel really isolated and lonely. Over time I become increasingly negative and self-deprecating, until I started to feel really lost, confused and totally off track in life. I wasn t achieving what I wanted. I came up with idea, after idea, after idea and then talked myself out of doing every single one of them. I became so defeatist. Then I came across a quote by Anthony Robbins, which changed everything. He said, Your destiny is determined by the choices you make. Choose now. Choose well. And I realised that I had been making terrible choices, based off a terrible frame of mind, which had caused me to be in a situation where I wasn t happy and wasn t achieving what I wanted. So I started on my journey to success. I decided that I wanted to learn how to program my mind for success, so that I could make good choices and actually turn my ideas into a reality, achieve my goals, live up to my potential and live a life I loved and was proud of. Over the course of the next couple of years my life changed dramatically; when I changed my mind, I began to change my life. I began to learn all I could about mindset and I started to apply the processes to my life. Since then the most insane things have happened. I have achieved some of my wildest, craziest dreams like being invited to Buckingham Palace, creating a magazine and interviewing my idols, creating a business that I could put my heart and soul into, building a massive network, and so much more. So I want to share with you the processes that I ve used that have helped me to turn my ideas into a reality and achieve amazing things. Getting into the Success Routine Once I realised what an impact my mindset was having on what I was achieving in my life, I came up with a success strategy for myself. My success strategy consists of me getting into the habit of doing certain exercises and techniques every single day to help me get out of the place of feeling frustrated, hopeless, unsuccessful and stuck and into the place of feeling positive proactive, hopeful, success and in the flow! I use this strategy whenever I feel myself slipping into a negative mindset and it helps to pull me out and get me back in alignment with myself and back on track. So, I m going to share with you the things I do. Page 4
Success Strategy Whenever I need to pull myself out of a negative mindset and get myself feeling pumped up, successful and positive I set myself a challenge (usually for a month) to get successful again and I do that by immersing myself in actions that will help take me back to the place I want to be. Here are the actions I start to take every day: Setting My Intentions I find that one of the biggest reason for why I go off track and start feeling frustrated, hopeless and unsuccessful is because I m not clear on what I m trying to achieve. So the first thing I do when I m on a program my mind for success mission is get out of the haze, by taking time to get clear on my intentions. Here is a simple, but effective 3-step process that I learned from Abraham Hicks. I ve found it to be very effective. Here is why: lack of clarity causes resistance. The more resistance you have, the more you feel out of the flow and the more frustrated and confused you become it s a vicious cycle! But it s simple to fix, once you re aware of what s happening. 3-Step Process 1 2 3 Ask: ask for what you want. You ve got to get clear on what it is that you truly want. Believe: be open to receiving. Hold the faith and trust that you will receive what you want. If you feel resistance then surrender and release those doubts and shift your thoughts onto something else think about something else, do something else. If you want to reach your goal then you can t spend the next 30-days opposing what you want, thinking that you can t get it, that it won t happen, that you re not good enough. You ve got to do whatever it takes to stay in alignment with what you ve asked for. You ve got to feel like it s already happened, you ve got to believe that it s a done deal. Receive: allow yourself to receive what you want. Page 5
Success Manifesto Something else which has helped me so much, is creating a Success Manifesto for life. A manifesto of how I want to live my life, the kind of person that I want to be. Every time I feel myself slipping off track I remind myself of my manifesto and it always helps me to realign with myself, to get a grip and to get back on track. Creating a manifesto isn t necessarily something you can do over night mine has taken years to create and I m always adding to it and changing it! In the Success Mission Workbook that we ve created for you, there are a series of questions to help you create your own manifesto take your time with them. Here s my manifesto it s not exactly a traditional one, it s in my own style, but every time I read it I think hell yes, that s me, that s who I strive to be every single day. When I lose my courage I look at my manifesto and think, no, I am the person that can do this. It constantly reminds me of the kind of person I want to be and the kind of life I want to live and I find it so empowering (if you ve read our magazine, you will probably recognise snippets of it ;) ) She is brave, courageous, a real go-getter. She knows what she wants & she believes that she will make it happen. She lives to inspire & be inspired & strives everyday to live from the heart & make a difference. She s honest, open & kind & loves to give to others. She stays positive when times are hard & she surrounds herself with like-minded people who want her to succeed. She knows the road will be bumpy at times, but she s determined to hang on, no matter what and have lots of fun along the way ;) Nothing is going to stop this girl from making her dreams come true. This girl means business. Inspire. Dream big. Trust. Believe. Love. Surrender. Hope. Success. Enjoy the journey. At the end I include words, which really mean something to me trust is a huge one for me, because I find that when you re trying to build a business and achieving incredible things you need a whole lot of trust in order to keep going!! Page 6
Success Strategy Do a mental cleanse Once I ve set my intentions, invariably I find that resistant thoughts will pop up, because I ve been in a place of resistances for such a long time. All sorts of doubts, worries and negative thoughts will pop into my head. So, I do a mental cleanse to stop letting them hold me back. I start my cleanse by getting clear on the thoughts that are holding me back I get honest with myself about the crap coming up and then I surrender and release it all, by using affirmations, visualisations and by accepting the thought and then thinking about it differently. Surrender & Release Cleanse Over the next 30 days I want you to become more aware of your thoughts throughout the day. Whenever you notice yourself thinking about one of the blocks you identified, whether it s that you re feeling panicky because of a lack of time/money or whether it s that you feel low because your block is making everything seem impossible I want you to stop do the following: I change my perception of the thought I m having by giving thanks to it, and then deciding that it s not helping me and so choosing to look at it differently. Throughout my success mission I constantly repeat this cleanse, so I m always working on moving away from the negative thoughts that hold me back and moving towards good thoughts and good feelings that will help me to feel positive, proactive and back in the flow. Here s a surrender & release cleanse you can use for your success mission. Change Your Posture The fastest and easiest way to snap yourself out of a state of mind is by changing your posture. Often when we re focusing on our blocks we feel a bit defeated and stuck, and so our posture will often reflect this slumped over shoulders, head lowered. Whereas when we feel positive and we re in the state of mind of I will make this happen we re usually standing or sitting tall, head up, with a strong posture. Simply by changing your posture from slouched to up right you re sending a message to your subconscious that you can do it, that you re ready to make it happen. Similarly, if you re feeling low, taking a second to smile can instantly start to shake you out of that state of mind and put your in a more positive one. Page 7
Success Strategy Change Your Words & Thoughts Once you ve changed your posture I want you to say out loud (or in your head, but out loud is better) I surrender all Say it with meaning, mentally picture your blocks disappearing sometimes I imagine them dissolving. Then I want you to say: I release all blocks and trust that what I want to achieve will come to pass at the right time, in the right way. Say it as many times as you want until you re no longer feeling bad about the block, but empowered by the fact that you trust that somehow everything will work out and nothing can stop you. Then focus on a thought or do something that makes you feel good, something that will get you back to that positive place, where you feel like anything is possible and that you will achieve your goals. This is a powerful exercise, because you are using your body, your thoughts and your words to break your thought pattern and stop you from exerting your energy on the block. If you start doing this every day you will start to break the down the block. You ve got to train your brain to stop focusing on the blocks and start focusing on what you do want. You ve got to break the cycle of negative thinking and change the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can t have what you want. Visualising What You Want I love this part of the success mission! Giving yourself permission every day to daydream and visualise is so much fun. We should do this ALL the time, but the reality is that life gets in the way and we forget to visualise what we want and end up getting consumed with day-to-day trials and tribulations, and before long we ve slipped into that negative mindset and lost connection with our intentions, dreams and goals. Using visualisation techniques will enable you to get that connection back to your goals. It will help you to get excited about it all, which is exactly where you want to be, because those feelings of excitement and anticipation and expectancy are powerful. Throughout my success mission I step up my visualisation to another level! On the next page, I am going to share with you exactly what I do. I do this visualisation first thing in the morning and last thing at night and I use the Daily Success Guided Visualisation to help me with this. Then throughout the day I will check-in with myself to see how I m feeling and spare a couple of minutes to go back to the visualisation and reconnect myself. Here s what I do... Page 8
I sit somewhere comfortable and close my eyes. Relax my body and start breathing deeply. I focus on my breath for a few minutes. When I m feeling relaxed I begin to vividly imagine my goals, like they ve happened. I begin to picture myself at a point in time when I ve accomplished my goals and I imagine how I feel, what I can see, what I can hear, what I m thinking. I focus on that feeling I try and make it stronger and stronger, so I m actually feeling it right now, like it s happened. I often smile, because it feels so good! After 5 or 10 minutes I bring my awareness back to the room I m in and I say with conviction, I trust that everything will work out in the right way, at the right time I know my goal is a done deal. I open my eyes and I try to stay connected to that feel-good feeling of success.
Tip It s also a good idea to create a vision board for yourself, where you can pin all of your goals and desires and then put it somewhere you can see every day. It will help to remind you of what you re trying to achieve, so you stay connected to it. Watch the video I made on creating your vision board here. Reading & Learning I think it s really important to take time to immerse yourself in reading and learning about success. I do this by reading a good book on success or a successful person and I listen to a good audiobook in the car, whenever I m driving around. Having constant reminders about having a successful mindset is powerful. Here are some audio programmes I really enjoy: Ask and it is Given, Esther & Jerry Hicks The Power to Shape Your Destiny, Anthony Robbins How to Have Your Best Year Ever, Jim Rohn Page 10
The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. William James
Affirmations I also come up with affirmations that I can use throughout my success mission to help anchor me back to those positive feelings. I love affirmations, because you can call upon them when you feel that downward spiral of negative thoughts starting to creep in, to help you pull yourself out and realign with your mission and feel good about it. I print them out and stick them around my room, on my phone and on my computer to instantly inspire me and put me back in that feel good, believing, hopeful place. Make sure you print off the affirmations we ve created for you & use the iphone and desktop image we created for you too :) Affirmations are simple, but powerful. You need to create affirmations based on what you want, not on what you don t want and create affirmations that really make you feel good, really resonate with you. Some of my favourite affirmations are: I welcome abundance into my life with open arms, I release all blocks and know I deserve good now. I trust that everything will work out at the right time, in the right way. You can make time in the morning or in the evening to say your affirmations (try doing it out loud, with conviction, feeling and certainty) or you could do it on your drive to work, when you re exercising, when you re walking anytime that s best for you. I also find that my affirmations help me in the moment when I m feeling overwhelmed or stressed out I look at my affirmations on my vision board or phone and it helps me to feel empowered. Give it a try! Extra little things to try: Some things that really help me to get myself back to that feel good place, where I feel like I can make it happen are: Listening to a piece of music that leaves me feeling inspired, fired up and happy! Start to compile your list of inspiration & feel good songs and listen to them whenever you need a boost! Watch a video that inspires you! Go on YouTube and TED and make a playlist of Inspiration Videos that you can watch whenever you need to. Videos and music are really powerful tools we can use to help get us feeling good again, because they help shift us emotionally. Go and do something else take a walk, meet a friend, go to the gym. I can and I will. Watch me (I love this one!!) All my needs and goals are met instantly. Page 12
Finally These are the main things I do you could do more, but I think I d overwhelm myself. Maybe you ll learn some great ideas from books you read or audio progrmmes that you listen to that you can incorporate into your own success mission. So, now your challenge for the month (if you choose to accept) is to program your mind for success. I want you to immerse yourself in success! I want you to commit to implementing these success actions every day for the next month and really get your mind programmed for success and feeling good feeling successful. If by the end of the month you ve managed to shake off your negative thoughts and feelings and replaced them with feel good thoughts and feelings, and you can actually put yourself in the place of feeling successful and knowing that you re going to make it happen then I will be delighted and you should be too! Carrie So are you going to join me? If so, create your own Success Mission Page 13