Welcome, Lovable! This PDF is a follow-up of the video for Day 4 of the Have Fun, Be Loved Challenge. In case you haven t seen the video, watch it here first:
Hey, lovely. How often do you lose yourself in a relationship or while dating someone? How often do you forget what you want and need, and (unconsciously) focus on him? One part of leaning back and just enjoying someone takes the lead is being comfortable in expressing ourselves and showing who we really are without the fear of ruining our chances or what s he gonna think of me Take a moment and think about all those things you did in the name of love and how you would sometimes go against yourself just to keep the romance going, mostly because you wanted it to work. Have those? I sure do. When we want to love and be loved, and when we have this beautiful image in our mind of what might come out of all that (happily ever after, right?), we sometimes can't see the forest for the trees. And we forget about ourselves. Somehow, being with that person and making it work becomes more important than how we really feel, doesn t it? Well, let s not even get ourselves in that situation and let s start relating in a way we never forget what s important, shall we? Constant checking in with yourself, listening to yourself, will always keep you on the right track and keep your actions aligned with who you really are. Start observing from Day 1. Instead of asking (or hoping) Does he like me?, Start thinking Do I like you? And why is it so? Not do I like what we could be (or become) but what really IS now. Observe how you feel in his company, the way he communicates with you, is he listening to you and what you want? Observe how much effort he is putting in. Calling you, planning dates, is he consistent and dependable?
Lastly, observe what s important to him and check his values. Does he have the same values as you and those you look for in a partner? Take a step back, enjoy yourself, and see if he really has the potential to co-create something great with you. If so, enjoy creating that connection step by step, because at least it s being built on something real. Would you be willing to do that? Stay you. x Matea T.
Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship or lost sight of who you really are and what you want/need? (*it doesn t have to be relationship only. It can be while you were dating someone, spending time together unofficial, going on and off with someone, and similar) What do you think is the reason why that happen/didn t happen? What is something you can and will do differently next time?
List two or three things that you really like about yourself and will proudly show that side of yourself no matter what anyone thinks ;) And just like you can stay true to those parts of yourself, I guarantee you you can stay true to all of you. Sounds possible? I look forward to hearing your thoughts. Each day of the challenge, after you complete the workbook, you will get a mini-task. Your mini-task will be to share one thing from the workbook in The Lovables group. If you share your mini-tasks on all five days, you are entering a draw to win a One on One Coaching Session with me, on any love subject you want to resolve. It might be a situation that you're currently in, the relationship you have with someone, something you've been struggling with, an emotional hurt you want to heal, or a goal you want to achieve. This coaching session will be highly tailored to your needs.
Today s Mini-Task In The Lovables group, on Day 4 video post, put a hashtag #day4loved (so I know you re participating in the contest) and share with us - What is one thing you will do, on a regular basis, that will remind you to stay true to you while getting close to someone? Me? Years ago, I promised myself that I will look at my values Every time I meet someone, I will go back to my values and remind myself of what s important to me. If I recognize that he has the same values as I do it will be easy to just be me while I m with him. If we don t share the same values, it s time to say goodbye. Click here to share: