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1 7 Rules of an Alpha Male Attract Women by Becoming a Better Man By John Howkins

2 This is a preview version of the book The Rules of an Alpha Male. 7 Rules of an Alpha Male Never wait for opportunity. You see an opportunity, you take it! That's the way of an alpha. He never waits passively on the sidelines hoping that an opportunity falls into his lap. He actively pursues it. If you hate your current situation, then do something to improve it. Don't wait for things to change so you can have the opportunity to change. Instead of waiting for it, bring on the change yourself. While you might get lucky once in a while and an opportunity comes along, it's more likely that nothing is going to happen if you don't take the necessary action. The biggest crock of shit I've ever heard about dating is that if you do things right and just stay yourself, the right person will come along. That there is always somebody out there for you and you just have to be willing to wait for her. Basically, what this so-called "advice" tells you to do is to sit on your ass and do nothing while hoping that the right girl will magically appear into your life, and then everything will work itself out. But this is not how reality works! If you don't get your ass into gear and change what's wrong with you and go after the women you want, it's likely that you will never find the right girl! 2 of 150

3 Don't push taking action into the future either. A lot of guys think that when they play the game of life right and finally have the great job, the expensive house, the nice car and all the money they need, women will come. But this isn't true either! If you're not taking action now, then nothing is going to change once you have your career life handled. While you might think that in the future everything will be fine because by then you will have X, Y or Z, it might never happen. What if you're wrong? What if the new job that brings in more cash doesn't bring you the fulfillment you wanted? What if the car you always wanted is a disappointment? What if finding your dream girl doesn't bring you the happiness you always hoped for? What's even worse, you might not even achieve these things at all because you were waiting for an opportunity instead of going after it. You can't see the future, so don't count on things you don't have yet. If you want to find the perfect girl, take action and search for her now. Sitting on your ass waiting for her to come along might never happen! You have to go out and find her! And even if she magically appears into your life, if you're not "prepared" for her if you don't know how to attract her you will still lose her! You don't know how much time you have left. If you used to sit on your ass waiting for the right moment, then this has to stop 3 of 150

4 now. Do not waste your time waiting for an opportunity that might never come! Start pursuing it now! "Opportunities are like sunrises. If you wait too long, you miss them." William Arthur Ward Have the abundance mindset. Having abundance means living your life to the fullest. Knowing that there are enough resources around for everyone and never fearing that you are missing out on something. True abundance is something everyone should aspire to. Many men who often contact me are in scarcity. They either have a crush on a girl who's not interested, or desperately want their ex back. They never consider the option of dating other girls. It's either her or nothing! So, they turn to me in hopes that I can give them a "magic formula" to make her attracted (again). But when I tell them that this is not how things work and they should forget about her and move on, I never hear from most of them again. While few actually write back to me about how to proceed, others just move on, hoping someone else provides them with the answer. What's sad about this is that if these guys never learn, they will stay like this forever trying to fill a void in their lives with a woman. It's in our nature to consider the fear of loss greater than the 4 of 150

5 desire to gain something. Most people would work harder to keep $100 than to gain it. But this doesn't mean we should do the same with relationships. There are many men who are terrified of the thought that their woman might leave them. And if she actually does it, and there is nothing they can do to get her back, they desperately try to do just that. Most men live in scarcity. To them, meeting a great girl feels like hitting the jackpot. They hold onto her as hard as they can. Some even go so far as to see all of her male acquaintances as a threat, or never lose her out of their sight because she might cheat on them. They become mistrusting and sometimes even abusive while at the same time suffocating her with their neediness. But no woman with a healthy mindset is going to stand for that! Eventually, these guys will end up alone again. Men are way too scared to lose a woman simply because they think that they won't find another one. A man with the abundance mindset knows that there are enough women around. He knows that if his woman would one day decide to leave, no matter how much it would suck, he would still find another. For this reason, you shouldn't get desperate when you get dumped (or don't have a girlfriend yet). Of course, fight for your relationship and if you have a chance to get her back, and you want it (not because you need her), then 5 of 150

6 take it. But consider that by losing her, you can still meet another girl (someone as great, if not better). The abundance mindset is something you have to develop, no matter what your goals are. If you don't have it yet, start by looking at things on the bright side. While losing hurts, the pain is only temporary. You just have to trust that you will always pull through and have opportunities as long as you pursue them. Search for your purpose. Originally this rule was called "have a purpose." But after writing it down, I realized that this is probably going to be your hardest task in life. A purpose isn't something you can just decide to have. It's easier to say "have a purpose" than to actually go out and find it. It takes time to figure out what you want to do with your life and even longer to find ways to do it. So naturally, even some people in their later years still struggle with it. Instead of intensely searching for your purpose in life, do things that matter. They don't even have to matter in the grand scheme of things but matter to you personally. Do things that are important to you and the people around you. If you do enough of the right kind of things, you might even find your purpose. It also helps if you do something that brings you happiness at the same time. Something that gives you a reason to wake every morning. 6 of 150

7 A woman wants a man who has a goal in life. It tells her that you are someone who knows what he wants out of his life. But there is one thing you should avoid doing: never make her your purpose! It doesn't matter how romantic you might think it is to live for her, it isn't something a real man should aspire to. If you make your woman your purpose, she can't really respond with the same. She wants a man she can look up to, but if he is so infatuated with her that he would do everything for her, he is not someone she can look up to! If you make a woman your mission, it tells her that you inherently don't have one. Your purpose has to be bigger than her. She wants to come along for the ride that's is call your life, not become the main attraction in it. She wants to be the queen to a king, not to a servant. Now, like mentioned before, everything isn't lost yet if you lack a purpose while you're in a relationship. But your woman needs to see that you are actually moving somewhere that you have goals that do not include her. Do that, and she will be happy with you! Have the attitude. You're the man! The king! The best! You're a gift to womankind! Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson ain't got shit on you! You eat nails for breakfast and start your day by punching a grizzly. How much do you bench? Like, all of it! You're the man; a 7 of 150

8 man's man and nobody is going to tell you otherwise! Being an alpha means always having a highly positive opinion of yourself. It doesn't mean that you're a narcissist who only thinks of himself! But if your problem is that you always put others above you, then this is the attitude you should adopt. When you are approaching women, instead of worrying about trivial things like rejection or how you might be perceived, you should be thinking how happy they should be that you have decided to approach them. What a privilege it must be for them that you have decided to grace them with your presence. How lucky they are that they met you. You get the point You don't have to think like this all the time, but whenever you approach a girl, this is the kind of attitude you should convey. Every guy who is successful with the opposite sex knows (not thinks, or believes) that he is "the price" to women. His opinion of himself is so positive and strong, that he will convince women of it merely by being in their presence. Call it delusional or whatever you want, but this it's the secret to their success. And you know what? While in some areas of life this delusional view of yourself can be harmful, when it comes to women, it actually works in your favor. It doesn't even matter who you are. If you have a highly positive view of yourself, it makes you irresistible to women. Ultimately, they want a high-value man, 8 of 150

9 someone they can look up to, not the other way around. If you have the attitude that you're hot shit, then in their eyes, you really are. There is even some truth to this way of thinking. No matter who you are, there is always something you can offer to a woman you meet. So don't disqualify yourself by thinking she is somehow better than you just because she is hot. Most likely you are giving her too much value and too little yourself. Turn it around, and you will become the price! Hold yourself to the highest standards. If you don't hold yourself to the highest standards, then no one else will do it for you. Always expect the best of yourself. Even when others give you a pass, don't do it yourself; always try to outperform the past versions of yourself. This is the only way to grow. If you re not in the habit of expecting the best of yourself, then you re not pushing yourself hard enough. While a lot of people get by with mediocrity (mediocre performance, mediocre success, mediocre life) you have to aim higher. That's why holding yourself to the highest standards is so important it pushes you to grow and do things that matter, never letting yourself become too comfortable and always finding ways to do something better. Of course, the mistake you should avoid when you hold yourself 9 of 150

10 to high standards is to beat yourself up about it when you fail. You will face failure no matter what! So, if you can t forgive yourself for your mistakes, then your growth will be painfully slow. Instead, whenever you fail, think of ways you could have done something differently and better. Learn from it and then put it into action next time. Is this important in your interaction with the opposite sex? You bet! In a relationship, there is no room for mediocrity. When you want a quality girlfriend, then you have to be someone of quality yourself hold yourself to highest standards. She won t stick around for long if all you can be is mediocre! As long as you always expect the best of yourself, you will be at your best. Obviously you don't have to become a perfectionist, otherwise you won't get anything done because nothing will be too good for you. Just don't be too lenient with yourself, always push yourself and never let your failures define you, and you will be unstoppable! Take responsibility for your choices. People like to make a lot of excuses why their current situation sucks. It s always because of someone else (or their circumstances) why they don t have what they want, or why they aren t where they want to be. But the truth is that every person is the only one responsibility for their 10 of 150

11 own choices. Even if you try to deny it, you are in your current situation because of your past decisions. Your actions and inactions led you to this point in time. So, own up to it, because you got no one else to blame. While it's easy to find a scapegoat, or say that others always have more opportunities than you, in the end, it's still you who has to live with it. Therefore, don't become a victim of your circumstances! If you let some guy steal the girl you want, it's not him you should blame (nor her!). It's you! If you lose her, it's because you weren't as good as him. He had something you didn't. While cursing him or/and will can make you feel better, it doesn't help you. So take some responsibility and find out what that something was, and then improve it! If you fucked up somewhere along the road, then do everything in your power to fix it! Give up on blaming others (or even yourself) and just accept your current situation. And then work on improving it! What has happened is in the past now, you have no control over it, let it stay in the past. All you can do now is to learn from it and use it as a lesson in the future. The thing is that you can become better with women if you wanted to. You can have great relationships or date as many women as you want. You just have to accept that you're not a 11 of 150

12 victim of your circumstances and can actually change your life. You just have to take responsibility and work on improving yourself. Rise above social conditioning. There are many positive things that come with social conditioning. Since we can't learn everything through first-hand experience, we have to rely on the people around us to fill the gaps in our understanding of how the world works. This is where social conditioning comes into play. If you don't know what social conditioning is, then here is a short definition from Wikipedia: "Social conditioning is the sociological process of training individuals in a society to respond in a manner generally approved by the society in general and peer groups within society." While social conditioning isn't inherently a bad thing, we are going to take a look at an example where it will screw you over big time. And as you can already guess, this is in your interactions with women. Growing up, you have been most likely told not to talk to (or bother) strangers. But if you intend to become good with women, you have to do exactly that! You have to go against your social 12 of 150

13 conditioning and approach (and sometimes risk with bothering) people who are strangers to you. You have to do what has been told you from early on is a bad thing, and this will naturally create some internal resistance when you approach women. Depending on how strong your social conditioning has been, this can be one of the main reasons why you feel approach anxiety. By now, you should already know that approaching women is not a bad thing. Women love confident men; they expect men to make the first step. Most actually like to be approached by a man. So the best thing you can do, is to demonstrate your confidence by approaching them. For this, you have to overcome your social conditioning (that tells you not to bother her) and approach a girl you don t know. To rise above your social conditioning, you first have to identify the bad habits and mindsets that you have acquired over the years. These can be something like worshipping physical beauty (and ignoring everything else), relying on smoking and drinking to feel good, or thinking that money is the sole solution to your problems. They can also lead you to judging yourself and others based on trivial factors like looks, caring too much of what others think of you, or simply comparing yourself to them. When you have identified the bad social conditioning, you have to challenge the beliefs and habits that are keeping you down. 13 of 150

14 This means re-evaluating and even replacing bad habits and beliefs with healthier ones. After that, you actually have to retrain yourself to regularly think and behave in these new ways until you recondition your psyche and make the changes lasting. Fighting bad social conditioning isn t going to be easy. But with time, you will start to think and behave differently and can finally let go of all the shit that has been keeping you down. I can t say how long this is going to take, but what I can tell you is that if you do it, you will start to see improvements in your personal as well as in yours dating life. To get the full version of this book, please visit: 14 of 150

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