AFFECT BRIDGE 5 Step (Pseudo) Regression Technique

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1 AFFECT BRIDGE 5 Step (Pseudo) Regression Technique 1. Help them get Relaxed so they can enter resource states. 2. Empower them with new Resources. 3. Change their Old Belief about what happened. 4. Reinforce their New Belief over time in their own mind. 5. Create Environment for Success future experience of success. ELMAN INDUCTION (Or something comparable.) SAFE PLACE (Start with them going to their own safe place.) Go to a place where you can imagine feeling safe, happy and secure. This can be a place you have been to before or a place you have only imagined. It can be at a lovely beach, on top of a majestic mountain, in a tropical rainforest, by a quiet lake or snuggled in your own comfy bed. Once you have that place in mind nod your head to let me know. (Wait for nod.) Good. Take a moment and notice everything. Soak in all the wonderful sights, sounds, smells and feelings of this safe place. Know that any time that you want to go there or anytime I want you to go there you will automatically go. PRESENT MOMENT (Always bring them back to present.) Stay in this wonderful peaceful state as you come back with me to the present moment. (Affect Bridge) Now, think about that feeling or the fear that you have, that feeling that has been bothering you. In a moment, you are going to step into it and follow it back to the event or situation that is most responsible for that feeling. (Dissociation) You re going to experience it as if it is over there across the room or as if you are watching it on a TV screen. And you have a remote control that you can stop, pause, fast forward or rewind any time. (Permission) Is it okay if we do this now? Great, in a moment, at the count of 3 - you are going to step into that feeling and go back to the original event that is most responsible for that emotion or feeling. (Use a leisurely pace as you count, some people take longer to process.)

2 REGRESSION TO ISE (INITIAL SENSITIZING EVENT) Beginning NOW, step into the feeling with the count of 3 drifting back 2 almost there and 1. Are you inside or outside? Are you alone or with someone? Look over at yourself and imagine how old you are. Go with the first number that comes to mind. (Focus on the meaning not details.) What is happening with number (12)? Notice what is happening. (Give time and let them tell you what is happening.) Freeze the situation with the magic remote control. Is it ok to talk with number (12)? (Wait for answer.) Now I want you to check with your inner wisdom and ask if you had this feeling even before that age. Did it happen before that? Is this a new feeling or an old feeling like you ve had it before? OLD FEELING Imagine putting a push pin there so we can come back if we need to. (Proceed to the OLD FEELING section.) NEW FEELING (Proceed to the OLD SCENE section.) CAN T REMEMBER ANYTHING Send yourself loving energy fill them up with good positive healing energy. (Can t go wrong with filling them with love.) Alternative question: I know you can t, but what if you could? Let s try again. Take your time and trust your mind. Eventually something will pop up. Just go with it and you ll be glad you did. HALL OF REGRESSION (If having difficulty going back.) Imagine a long corridor with many doors when you get to the correct door you will open it up. The 1 st door represents your current age The next door is 1 year ago The next door is when you were in your 20 s Continue on until you are at the door of your birth. As I count from 3 down to 1 you will find yourself in front of the door that has the experience you need to go to.

3 PROJECTION BOOTH (Another choice if still having difficulty.) Imagine walking into theater (visual) make it any way you want it to be. You are in the front row Imagine a big screen in front of you Go to the back row now Make the screen even smaller. Now go into the projection booth with only a small little cutout there. Make the screen farther away from you and very small. (Decreases sensitivity) In a moment you are going to imagine a scene on that screen OLD FEELING (Continue here if there is an older feeling ) Now go back in time to the very first time you experienced that old feeling. Are you inside or outside? Are you alone or with someone? Look over at yourself and imagine how old you are. Go with the first number that comes to mind. (6) What is happening with number (6)? Notice what is happening. As you look on the scene describe what you think is happening. (Give time, let them tell you what is happening. When they start to get emotional ) Freeze the situation with the magic remote control. (Go to The Old Scene.) OLD SCENE (Continue here when they identify the initial scene.) Is it ok to talk with number (6)? (Wait for answer.) You will be able to talk now. Imagine yourself over there What is (6) thinking? What is the belief that starts to enter your mind? Today is going to be a really good day for you (6). We are going to send in some resources. Imagine you are going to bring someone into the situation that is going to help you a lot. This can be a parent or godparent, a hero from a TV show or someone spiritual like a guardian angel. Imagine bringing somebody in that can help you understand the situation so that you can feel better about it. Who would you like to bring in? (Wait to confirm that they have someone in mind. Have them describe the person and make sure they have a positive energy that they are happy. If negative have them wrap the person in white light and ask someone else to come.) Imagine that special person / angel is there and helps you to understand that

4 kids are good they are to be loved and taken care of. (Use description pertinent to what they are experiencing. Doesn t make any difference what the situation is. If it is a blaming situation tell them something like this...) A lot of people like to blame. Imagine in that memory that whoever said that is standing like the Blamer. Imagine their posture standing there and pointing. It is a pattern of theirs and has nothing to do with you. You have discovered something. Imagine them wearing great big tutu while pointing at you or maybe they have a curly pig tail or give them a big nose like Pinocchio. See them pointing at you with their Pinocchio nose. Don t they look ridiculous aren t they silly looking? (Use pattern interrupts, use humor on purpose.) You might even hear them talking like Charlie brown s teacher wa-wa-waaa. It is just a pattern that they were using because they were feeling hurt and they took it out on a (6) year old. They didn t know how to handle it and so they took it out on you. Doubt (6) was the root of problem. Recognize it was a pattern that they felt about themselves that they projected onto a (6) year old. NEW SCENE Use your magic remote and play a new scene Where you are taking charge laughing along with them and see how that goes. (Change scene to have them create a more empowering scene.) How are you feeling (6)? Good / happy Who made you feel good / happy (6)? I did See, you knew how to take charge Laughing with them Feeling strong You made situation small and tiny and little. (Or whatever is pertinent to their situation.) Now rewind and let s play something else. Imagine that you are able to take charge of your imagination Imagine that your special person is there to help you Imagine that they take a few moments to explain what was going on and that your response is to laugh. It wasn t anything about you at all it was just something that happened. You are good, strong and happy. You never have to prove anything to be strong. Everybody has had old experiences. You can now let that go and remind yourself that you can take charge in any situation. Hey (6) what else do you need right now to feel strong?!

5 Imagine that your angel / special person is hanging out with that kid so that s/he knows they are always going to be there with him/her. Imagine that they are giving you all you need to feel. Imagine surrounding entire situation with white light Make it feel safe and peaceful and happy. ANOTHER MEMORY (Time permitting.) From that safe happy place trust your inner wisdom, see if there is another memory that needs to be healed Float around and see if another memory comes up. (Count ) Are you inside or outside? Are you alone or with someone? Look over at yourself What age are you now? (3) Do want the same person or angel with you or a different one? What is happening with (3) (Reframe the situation using the same techniques as before.) Imagine that the angel is telling you that you are good. You are supposed to be there and you have nothing to prove. You are safe and loved. Imagine you are the strongest (3) year old in the world. Imagine shrinking people around you down so that they become small and tiny. You might even imagine them apologizing. Take a few moments and give (3) everything s/he needs to be safe, loved and happy. Hi (3) how are you feeling? Good Who made you feel good? I did Hey (3) how can you fail? You are one smart (3) year old Good job (3) that s awesome. You are awesome. Wrap (3) around in beautiful white light from your safe happy place. Have your angel go with you to support you. FUTURE PACE When that is done and feels good take a slow deep breath in. As you come back through the years imagine sprinkling white light through every

6 memory until you come back to today. Imagine that your angel is going to be with you on every journey and that you always have the feeling of safety and confidence. Imagine now jumping into future where you have the ability to be confident in very relaxed way The old pattern / game is tossed out the window. You have a newfound confidence You hold others accountable and provide a whole new level of service. Feeling strong and confident as far into the future as you can see. What are you experiencing in this future moment? (Give time.) Look into the eyes of your future self What does the future you let you know What advise do they give? (Give time for feedback.) Thank them and bring that information back with you into the present moment. Come back with me to the here and now. It is. (Give date.) Imagine that makes you feel happy and excited. The old fear is gone because FEAR is really FEELING EXCITED AND READY. We might not get rid of butterflies but we can make them fly in formation! COMING BACK In a moment, I am going to count you up from 1 to 5 at the count of 5 you are going to open your eyes feeling wonderful in every way like this was the best experience you have ever had in your entire life. (Count them up from 1-5.) Open your eyes feeling wonderful in every way. (As they come back to awareness, ask the following.) How long do you think you have you been sitting in the chair? What is the new belief? Who created this happiness or strength or power? I did You did 3 knew it 6 knew it and I knew it. You are awesome! AFFECT BRIDGE DISCUSSION The Affect Bridge is one of the best methods to use. It is shorter, quicker and more streamlined than others.

7 Going Through The Structure: Practice First, You Must Be Confident. 1. Always keep them safe and protected, then take them there. 2. Give people resources. Experiences happen, things are said and we form beliefs and opinions. We can change belief by changing the experience. We give them what they really need then change the way they remember it. PTSD clients keep looping old picture over and over again. Change their thoughts by making scene very dark or have them focus in different spot disconnect from the feeling. Fast Phobia Cure can change it even more. Learn language patterns and learn intention patterns. 3. Ask what they need then have them give it to them-self. Give positive affirmations. Some won t know how to give to self. They feel not worthy of being happy. We have to change that belief. I wasn t really attacking you, it was focused on myself and I am sorry. Help them to look at the scene differently. Parts Therapy be sure to reintegrate all parts so that they come back as whole. Even with multiple personalities, people are acting out and will have an emotion for every role. All these different feelings flip into different personalities. 4. They need to release. Some people want to talk, others don t. Some cry, others scream, others very quiet. They have to figure out what they are most comfortable with and work within their framework. You don t have to know the details, just the general thought about what they need to feel better. 5. Future Pace Let them experience how they will look, feel and behave in the future. CAUTION: Never use leading questions like, If your father in the room with you? Do you feel uncomfortable around him? Use only open-ended questions and allow your clients to fill in the blanks. Also, avoid as much detail as possible. Identify the structure of what s happening, help provide the needed resources, strengthen the new beliefs, feelings, and behaviors, and future pace them.! At the beginning of the session, we talk about the issue a bit and they will start changing the feeling somewhat. When you think about a situation what resource do you wish you would have had back then?

8 Imagine sending someone there to support you or explain what was happening to you. Have them give you insight, feedback, awareness, understanding, love, security and/or more fun. Give everybody all of those in some way. Figure out what they really want. When you cut out middle person and go directly to ourselves, then we don t have to chase it any more. If you need it you never get it. When I was broke nobody wanted to take me for lunch. Now that I m successful, everyone wants to take me to lunch. Tim Shurr. If you need complements, you have a hard time receiving them. If you give yourself love, kindness and respect, then you will start to see those things coming from others. Even if someone tries to give us these things, we often see it as manipulating, as them wanting something. If you want to see a change in the world, BE the change. - Ghandi If I had a magic wand and could help you with anything that you could wish for what would you wish for? Confidence How will you know if you have confidence? What if you do all the right things and they don t respond will you still feel good? Always put energy into what you want. Confidence and motivation come after taking action in some way. Resistance is the result of an experience that is coming from inside of you. If something doesn t work, what you get is feedback NOT failure. Failure doesn t exist in my book you might want to erase it in your book as well. What is failure? Failure is when you stop trying. You don t fail unless you tell yourself you do it is very subjective. Walking around feeling like a failure is not very motivating. Success is subjective too. If something didn t work out, then set another goal. Focus on changing some of these things we say in our head. There was a culture that didn t have a word for war so they didn t have wars. FEAR F Everything And Run vs. Feeling Excited And Ready give the same adrenalin it s simply how we label it. I used to be afraid of public speaking, now I do it for a living and like it. Only way to fail is to not try. Even that is subjective, to be used as leverage. Everything that didn t work out is just feedback we adjust and move on. There will always be opportunities for those who look for them. It is the pursuit of happiness the goal is to be happy then everywhere you go you have arrived. Confidence comes from doing the best you can do. There will be a shift in how you connect with people. When talking to people, instead of making them

9 accountable that is just feedback we need to get into their head to find out what to do to change the process. Take their fears and make fun of them, turn them into jokes, share them with others. The fears become smaller and then we have the ability to change them and think differently about them. We shift from trying to make sure everyone likes us, which is the need to prove ourselves. We learn to accept ourselves and release our focus on chasing others for approval. We have to not care, to let go of the ego. When we let go of trying to be special or powerful and are genuinely trying to make others succeed, then we will feel better. Experiences change people. It is not same as reading, which is why we have repeated the scripts in our mind. We miss 100% of the shots we never take. - Wayne Gretsky Your mind is like GPS what you program in is where it is going to take you. Keep thinking something good is going to happen and it will. If other things happen don t get caught up in them just keep knowing that positive things are happening. Do associate pleasure to the positive to reinforce them. When we reinforce the negative we draw more negative into our lives. What we are using with the Affect Bridge is a pseudo-regression, a false regression, a dissociated approach. We are going to help someone build confidence, which usually comes from fear failure, rejection, abandonment. All these come down to a feeling of not being good enough or not being loved or measuring up in some way. We will reexperience the pain of someone making fun of you or leaving you or physically harming you. Even if you have experiences that enforce that negative idea, we need to change our thoughts about it. We need to know that it is never our fault. The person doing that to us was raised in way that was not supported or loving. The only way to break free is if you decide that you are going to break free. It started as pattern, then I was the one that kept it going and I had to learn how to stop it myself. I had to stop bullying the little one inside of me. I had to learn to love him and care for him. When I changed my inner image of myself and then it changed me. If you see yourself as scared and insecure then that is how it is. When you start to see yourself differently in your mind, then your reality changes. Focus on where you are going and that you are getting better every day. It is a continual process, not some place that you get to and stop. I don t believe in motivation it doesn t last. Neither does a shower but it is a good idea. - Zig Ziglar

INSTRUCTIONS FOR COACHES: How to do the Gift of Clarity Exercise with a Client

Handout #4 INSTRUCTIONS FOR COACHES: How to do the Gift of Clarity Exercise with a Client I call it The Gift of Clarity Exercise - because this script allows you to give them something incredibly valuable: