Rick s BPD Cheat Sheet

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1 Rick s BPD Cheat Sheet I know what you re thinking: === This is the UGLIEST ebook I ve ever downloaded in an internet full of ebooks! WTF is this!!! You re not thinking that? You just want the goods? Hey, that s pretty cool! Let s get started then :) First: My Belief About BPD After helping hundreds and hundreds of men and women Borderlines, here is what I ve discovered: BPD does NOT make someone an evil person. Sure, they may do things that piss you off and cause chaos. BUT the truth is, ALL humans do things that can cause chaos in relationships. First step for you: drop the BPD label and STOP believing your partner is some sort of villain. This is the first step. You must accept this to move forward and make things better. And if you have BPD yourself? Accept it. Stop trying to cure yourself of this. It s part of who you are and you CAN make it work for you in your favor. Think of the kids who have A.D.D. Schools and parents thought the solution was to drug up these kids and suppress their true nature. However, this turned out to be

2 horrible as it made the kids worse. I suppressed their unique talents and created more issues for these individuals. I have known MANY borderlines over the years and they all tend to be creative and artistic in a way. They have A LOT of love within them -- so much so in fact that they can t seem to control it. These are all great qualities. Why suppress them? Doesn t make sense to me. Embrace who you are. Accept it. Deal with it. And pursue your creative nature. I promise you ll find some hidden gems within yourself, things that will make you happy and proud of who you are. This will lead to greater control over your destiny which leads to happy, fulfilling relationships. Cool, right? Okay let s quickly go over the common issues that you experience in BPD relationships: 1. Emotional Irregulation Borderlines have trouble controlling their emotions. This is due to their creative, overflowing nature. But you know what I ve realized over the years? That all of us humans are purely emotional. We all react and respond in chaotic ways at times. It s just how it is. Dealing with mood changes and all that can be troublesome for the non. But you know what? No one is forcing you to sit there and soak it all in. Letting emotions bottle up leads to mood changes and outbursts. And this is why I love contact sports. You don t even have to hit anybody. But strapping on a pair of gloves and hitting the bag at the gym will do wonders for your mood swings. Who knew that getting physical, returning to our human nature, would be such a simple solution for such a problem? Try it. You ll be surprised at the results you get from this. Or if you have an axe and live in the woods? Chop some wood. 2. Poor Self-Image It s interesting when I read about Borderline s and their poor self-image. It s as if all these doctors and websites think that only borderlines have a poor self-image. WTF?

3 Nearly everybody does. Like 99% of people. We all wish we could look and feel better. To be better. Thanks to society constantly pushing these false images of success and happiness, most people are unhappy with who they are. So as I said earlier, you have to first accept WHO you are. Today. Then, you can go straight to work improving yourself. This advice is for both non s and Borderlines. It results in more happiness in all areas, including your relationships. 3. Self-Destructive Behavior Yes, Borderlines tend to be chaotic at times. They will do things that hurt and cause pain to both you and themselves. But it goes both ways. Men and women do this. Non s and Borderlines. You may think this is just a Borderline thing, but remember that YOU fell for this person. YOU also are just as impulsive, falling in love and getting intimate fast. YOU made the honeymoon period happen just as much as the Borderline. If you re dealing with extreme destruction, such as physical attacks, then you re dealing with a whole new level of behavior and it s recommended that you step away from this person. No person is worth being with who physically harms you. Your attachment to an abusive person makes YOU just as destructive as your partner. Look within yourself. I help people escape from this pain and poor mindsets all the time. 4. Abandonment Abandonment comes from one major problem: insecurity. Poor self-image. Are you starting to see the trends here? People with BPD generally are insecure and have a poor self-image. I hate labels, especially the BPD label, because most people have a poor self-image. It s why I believe BPD is the most common issue among people today. You can disagree with this if you want, but it s the truth. My advice, as always, is to get to work on your self-image. Hit the gym, eat healthy, learn to love yourself. Accept who you are and work from there. It takes time to improve your self-image, but it IS possible. One of the reasons I created my own

4 community is so we can all be on this journey TOGETHER. It s a support system if you will. I encourage you to be a part of it. 5. Unstable Relationships Yes, Borderlines struggle in relationships. You want to know why? Because relationships can t work if love and trust aren t there. Guess what? You can t love someone if you first don t love yourself. Love isn t something that you just take from others. Most people are trying to find love, to get love from another person. This obviously never works and results in poor relationships. Another truth? You attract what you project. The person you end up with is a reflection of yourself. This means that while you might point fingers at your partner for being a shitty person, you are just as much to blame for this. You were drawn to this person and vice versa due to your similar vibe or energy levels. When I look at my old self from 10 years ago, it s blatantly obvious that I attracted insecure, toxic women into my life. This is because I was also insecure with no love to give. I didn t realize it at the time, but it s so obvious when I look back at myself. I simply was a shitty person and I attracted shitty, unstable women. I actually made these women worse! Not cool. Conclusion: Start With YOU Here s the hard truth for most people to accept: BPD relationships can be drama-free when you realize what makes a relationship great in the first place: YOU. Want your relationship to improve? Then start with yourself. Don t point fingers. Don t blame BPD. Work hard for yourself so that people will respect you more, find your more attractive, etc. The solution is really simple -- but that doesn t mean it s easy. I send s out almost every day. I encourage you to read them and get involved in the community that I ve created. We re over 10,000 strong men and women who are working hard to improve not only their relationships, but their lives as well. I get messages from Borderlines every day who thank me for the work that we re doing. They are improving and becoming more stable each and every day. Stick around!

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